New York Times: Men to decide

New York Times: Men to decide

You will seldom see a more sobering example of the utter disrespect, silencing, censorship and complete removal of women and lesbian representation from public discourse regarding our rights as human beings than you will from the New York Times this evening.

The Times has initiated a male-only “debate” about the impact of attaching the transgender politic (which promotes and codifies noxious social sex roles and sex stereotypes against women) onto the lesbian and gay rights movement. Eliminated from this debate are the women and lesbians whose rights are directly at odds with this movement.

The New York Times culled ALL women from this discussion. They invited six men: four gay, and two male genderists (one gay: drag queen Laverne Cox from RuPaul’s “Drag Race”), and one straight (explicitly anti-lesbian activist Susan Stryker, who has campaigned to outlaw lesbian public gatherings, organizations and activism on the basis that they exclude men) to “decide” whether the LGBT movement should further support the anti-female sex roles and sex stereotypes championed by the transgenderist movement.

Missing from this discussion of women’s rights? Women. Missing from this discussion of the lesbian and gay movement? LESBIANS. All of us. Every single one. Total and complete lesbian and woman erasure.

Much like the recent assembly of all-male US legislators who convened to impose legal limits on our female right to control the reproductive capacity of our own bodies this “debate” will include none of the people involved. WOMEN. LESBIANS.

The “Grey Lady”, once considered a reliable balanced news outlet, has gone full-on …. irrelevant. There is a reason millions of people read blogs like mine while the Times goes out of business. That reason is WOMEN. Keep chatting amongst yourselves boys. Good luck with that bros.

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Daniel

“I knew when she was little. She was I’d say 3, 3 and a half. And like any typical parent we would read the story books and fairy tales and all kinds of stuff. And we ended up reading Cinderella, she wanted to read Cinderella, so we were reading Cinderella and at the end of the story she told me that she was gonna grow up and marry herself a handsome prince. We tried to convince her that she was gonna grow up and marry a princess and she was adamant that no, she was going to marry a prince. So at that point, yanno we’d kinda thought it was a phase and she would grow out of it. And it turns out it wasn’t a phase. So when she came to us when she was seven and said that this isn’t how she wanted to live and if she had to live this way she didn’t want to… we went looking for help. And got in touch with family services of york region, met Barbara, and one thing after another after another and here we are and we have “Danielle”.

We didn’t know for the longest time what we were gonna be faced with. We knew that there was something there. So we chose to basically ignore it for a little while to see where things would go. But she got very behavioral, withdrawn, yanno tended to not wanna come out and play, she just wanted to sit in her room. So we kept trying to talk to her and ask her like what’s going on, how are you feeling, why are you feeling this way, and most of the time it would end up with her in tears shutting down, wouldn’t talk to us. And then the one day I was cooking dinner and she came out and told me flat out- I don’t wanna live like this anymore. I want to be a girl. I am a girl. And so the choice was made to… let her make the choice. You’re either Daniel, or you’re Danielle. You make the choice.

And obviously… what her choice was.

So.”

 http://www.thestar.com/life/health_wellness/2013/10/04/i_told_my_mom_that_i_wanted_to_be_a_girl.html

Look how the hack reporter Carys Mills lazily re-frames the actual words mom says into the “typical transgender narrative”, and uses that narrative to shill for the “Sick Children” facility for “Sick Children Who Are Flaming Homos” where Daniel will be “treated” by retarding his pre-pubertal gonads followed by sterilization to correct his defect of wanting to marry a prince. WAKE UP Gays and Lesbians and so-called supporters. WAKE UP. This is happening ON YOUR WATCH.

DO something. SPEAK UP in your COMMUNITY, on websites that post this shit, to your government representatives that you VOTE for, at the BAR, at the bus stop, at your CHURCH, to your family and co-workers, to your BARBER, at the grocery store, at your LGBT CENTER, at your pride march, on your FACEBOOK, to the news agencies.

Seven year old kids ARE NOT CONSENTING TO THIS. It is THEIR PARENTS who are DOING SO. Stop them from transgendering boys who WANT TO MARRY A PRINCE. Speak up for seven year-old Daniel. SPEAK UP FOR DANIEL. This is BULLSHIT! HOMOPHOBIC BULLSHIT! This could have been YOU. And you KNOW it. So STOP THIS SHIT. Fuck some shit up. Do it FOR DANIEL.

Speak up and say “LET KIDS BE KIDS”. And “GAY KIDS ARE NOT SICK KIDS”. Including GAY KIDS who want to marry a FUCKING PRINCE.

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J. Michael Bailey

J. Michael Bailey

Sheila Jeffreys, Janice Raymond, Radical Feminists

Sheila Jeffreys, Janice Raymond, Radical Feminists

Alice Dreger

Alice Dreger

Janice Raymond, Radical Feminists

Janice Raymond, Radical Feminists

Ray Blanchard

Ray Blanchard

Cathy Brennan

Cathy Brennan

 

Kenneth Zucker

Kenneth Zucker

Radical Feminists

Radical Feminists

By Brendan O’Neill, Editor of Spiked:

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Trans activists really need to lighten up

Transsexuals’ histrionic response to every slight only confirms how flimsy their identity is.

Why are transsexual activists so sensitive to criticism? This is a serious question, not an insult. There must be some reason why the trans community, as it calls itself, is worse at taking criticism or tolerating insulting commentary than, say, the Christian community or the butch lesbian community, both of which also get flak on the internet and elsewhere but don’t tend to respond to it in the way trans types do.

Over the past fortnight we’ve had loads of histrionics from trans activists. Feminist Julie Bindel was hounded off a panel discussion at a British university because she once criticised trans people. Roseanne Barr, maker of the best sitcom of the Eighties, currently stands accused of ‘transphobia’ basically because she tweeted favourably about someone who criticised the trans identity. This follows the trans community’s successful removal of Julie Burchill’s trans-slamming article from the website of the Observer earlier this year. When I wrote a piece arguing that Bradley Manning is not a woman, despite his claims to the contrary, I was bombarded with suggestions that I should kill myself. This from trans activists who (ludicrously) held Daily Mail columnist Richard Littlejohn responsible for the suicide of a trans schoolteacher and said the media must be careful never to criticise this community lest its members feel tempted to kill themselves.

Of course, ours is an age of super-sensitivity, when feeling offended, and more importantly loudly and proudly declaring your feelings of offence, has become the lifeblood of public discourse. But there are different degrees of offence-taking. Some groups seem more capable of riding out criticism than others. Yes, Christian outfits play the victim card and bleat to officialdom about feeling offended by an ad or an article, but mostly they just ignore web-based Christian-bashing, which is voluminous. Islamists are more sensitive, hollering for beheadings whenever someone mocks Muhammad or says the Koran is cobblers.

And the trans lobby is even more sensitive than that, reacting with censorious anger not only to insults but also to people’s allegedly incorrect use of language, to being called ‘a transsexual’, for example, rather than ‘a member of the trans community’. They even picket the offices of newspapers that have the temerity to piss them off. Why the extraordinary touchiness?

I think it reflects the fundamental flimsiness of the trans identity, the fragility of this so-called community. Transsexuals’ hopping-mad reaction to any perceived slight doesn’t confirm that they are a well-organised, increasingly cocky gang holding the world to ransom, as some have claimed. Rather it reveals the opposite – that this is a ‘community’ so sadly uncertain of its own claims, so instinctively aware of the largely phoney nature of its arguments, that it must protect itself from any form of public ridicule or questioning lest its facade be knocked down.

The rule of modern-day identity politics and offence-taking seems to be this: the less rooted and real one’s identity is, the more obsessed one becomes with erecting a forcefield around it in order to keep at bay awkward query-raisers.

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THANK YOU BOSTON HERALD! For not referring to this sadistic brutal decapitation murderer – a sixty-four year old man who wants the state to turn him into “a little girl”- as a “Woman”.

Kosilek is not a woman. He is the worst sort of male predator.

Thanks again.

Signed,

  Every Woman, Lesbian, and Feminist On The Planet. 

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Kosilek presses Appeals Court to act on prison sex change

 

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Thursday, September 26, 2013

As he awaits word on whether his landmark taxpayer-funded sex-change operation will go forward, convicted transgender wife killer Michelle Kosilek is feeling his age and “anxiety,” a letter he wrote this month to U.S. Court of Appeals Judge Juan R. Torruella states.

Kosilek complains in the publicly filed handwritten note that nearly half a year has passed since Torruella and fellow appellate Judges Rogeriee Thompson and William Joseph Kayatta, Jr. heard the Department of Corrections’ appeal of a lower court’s controversial 2012 ruling that to deny him the surgery amounted to cruel and unusual punishment.

“Is my anxiety about approaching the six-month park misplaced, when this court almost always rules in three to four months?” Kosilek asked Torruella.

After all, Kosilek continued, he’s not getting any younger, and first began his quest for sex-reassignment via a civil suit when he was 43.

“I’m now sixty-four,” he wrote, adding in Spanish, “Que esta pasando? (What’s happening?)”

Kosilek enclosed a self-addressed envelope.

The former Robert Kosilek is serving life without the possibility of parole for the 1990 strangulation of his wife Cheryl Kosilek.

U.S. District Court Judge Mark L. Wolf, who ruled in favor of a sex-change operation for Kosilek, agreed to stay the procedure while DOC appealed to try and overturn him.

Kosilek, meanwhile, is living as a woman at the all-male MCI-Norfolk state prison.”

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From Transgender M2T blogger Snowflake Especial:

Gendertrender appreciation post

I discovered gendertrender sometime last fall. At first the site kind of bummed me out. Over the course of a few weeks, I read every previous post, and most of the previous comments. (When I get interested in something, I really want to get to the bottom of it!)

I was still on a private trans* forum, but over those weeks I found myself a lot more interested in reading the new comments on gt than checking in at the ts forum, even though I’d been on that forum for six years! Ironically (or not), I found out about gt when one of the forum regulars was posted by gt in the aptly titled I’m a dumb prick. What sympathy I had for the person was tempered by my shock at their actual presence. How many times had I read them mansplaining to young trans* about dating men as an assimilated mtf, and how they were now stealth? Yeah, ok. Honey, no shade but I think you have a ways to go!

Anyway, after a while of reading gt, I got used to the putdowns and insults, and the underlying logic started to emerge. Of course women are pissed at trans these days! It’s our own fault for letting Autumn SandeenJoy LadinColeen Francis, Red Durkin, Savana Garmond,Jennifer McCreath, Julie Blair, etc become our leaders/spokes[wo]men!

And I have to hand it to GallusMag, she has a cutting wit! Even hertantrums are amusing. But my favorite is definitely whenever she writes about men “putting on laaydee wigs” or being “laayddees”. My irl mtf friend and I have laughed at this joke so many times over the last few months, you’d think it would never make me laugh again. But here I am chuckling to myself as I type this!

But to be honest, the reason the laydee wig thing is funny to me is because of how true it also is. I’m not trying to judge anyone, except maybe for being completely out of touch with reality. But one of the most embarrassing conversations I ever had to have with my mom, was a year or two ago when she reminded me of a story about my brother and a mutual friend parading around in the friend’s mom’s underwear as teenagers. I told her “Mom, I hope you know I never wore your clothes when I was a kid!” Why would I even have to say that? Except that seemingly 80-90% of the mtf’s on the trans* forum were routinely telling stories about stealing their mother’s/sister’s clothes out of the hamper, and/or jerking off in them. Fuck.

Anyway was that Julie Birchill quip about “bedwetters in bad wigs” out of line? Yeah I guess. But actually, I’m not even sure! There are so many bedwetters in bad wigs who pontificate about trans issues, she was really just naming a social reality! (If you can stomach that video you’ll get a good hearty laugh at the part where Michelle says s/he had to transition because s/he “couldn’t very well keep hiding a bag of laayydee clothes under the bed.”)

The thing that really baffles me is when trans* people get all bent out of shape about gt. Because almost invariably, they start behaving in exactly the way Gallus and others have described so perfectly well, time and time again. That recent comment about “gutting a bitch” was really over the top! But on the other hand, kind of par for the course.

Needless to say, the more time I spent reading gt, the less tolerance I had for the misogynistic bullshit people were posting on the trans forum, and eventually the mod got sick of my pro-female/pro-feminist posts and I was “disappeared”. (As in, not banned, but hidden.)

I’m not sad about it though. There was an exchange in the gt comments a few months ago (between Adrian and some of the other regulars – I wish I could find it again) about their experiences trying to fit in to the male-dominated world of software development as a woman and a feminist. I felt like I got more out of that conversation, that actually applied to my life, than I had in the prior six years on the trans* support forum. So, time to move on!

Thanks Gallus! Please don’t ever stop! xo

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This was posted in April but somehow I missed it. Thanks! I quite enjoyed it.

The conversation you mention is here,  btw:  http://gendertrender.wordpress.com/2012/12/31/top-trends-in-gender-2012/

The reason I was unaware of this post is that Snowflake Especial has surprisingly refrained from coming to my blog and demanding that women listen to him, or explain things to him. (Although I do think he dropped by just to say hello some time ago.) In that sense he reminds me of Kathrin, who reads here but seldom comments and is one of the nicest and sanest trans males I have ever “met” online. But what I really like about this guy is that he is reaching out to OTHER MEN and helping them to move forward from some of the more noxious invasive woman-hating MANifestations of the trans politic. He does this instead of bugging women. That takes laydee-balls.

Here is one of his posts that should be required reading for every tired old MRA calling themselves a transgender activist these days:

http://snowflakeespecial.tumblr.com/post/51912831447/ameliated-all-i-want-is-to-be-respected-as-a

Who you calling bitch?

September 6, 2013

#FuckCisPeople

August 17, 2013

New Trans Activist twitter campaign.

https://twitter.com/search?q=%23fuckcispeople&mode=realtime

Enjoy!

"Laurelai Bailey", originator of the popular "FuckCisPeople" campaign

“Laurelai Bailey”, originator of the popular “FuckCisPeople” campaign

http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/anger-useful-twitter-hate-all-non-trans-people-stupid160813

http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2013/08/16/prominent-trans-campaigners-condemn-use-of-fckcispeople-in-twitter-argument/

https://encyclopediadramatica.se/Laurelai

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Paul Ray Witherspoon aka “Paula”

Imagine my surprise when I stumbled across this disgusting bit of whitewashing published in the print edition of the Dallas Voice yesterday by Dallas Voice News Editor Anna Waugh. In a piece celebrating the 100% HRC rating of two local hospital systems titled “Parkland, Dallas VA get perfect scores” Waugh offered this bit of reportage about the Paul Ray Witherspoon aka “Paula Witherspoon” incident:

       “Snowdon said HRC wants to see the number of hospitals continue to grow over the years as medical staff examines training needs and reviews policies to become more competitive. She also said many hospitals should change their polices before an incident occurs.

Transgender woman Paula Witherspoon got a ticket for using a women’s restroom at Parkland last year. The incident helped prompt the hospital to add trans protections to its policies, which also extend to visitors.

Dr. Roberto De la Cruz, a gay member of Parkland’s board, created a task force to address LGBT issues and is working on a countywide assessment of LGBT health needs. Parkland added domestic partner benefits for employees in 2011.

“I am very proud that Parkland has received this designation,” De la Cruz said. “We want to provide a safe, respectful and caring environment for all of our patients. This designation indicates that we are inclusive to everyone at Parkland — patients, visitors and staff.”

Transgender woman Paula Witherspoon got a ticket for using a woman’s restroom at Parkland last year? Really, News Editor Waugh? Is that what happened? Is that what passes for accurate, reliable news reportage at the Dallas Voice these days?

GenderTrender readers will recall that convicted serial child rapist Paul Ray Witherspoon was reported to law enforcement by a woman who was frightened by him in a hospital restroom designated for use by women and girls. Witherspoon was wearing earrings and a skirt and a large bulky ankle GPS device worn by paroled felons deemed likely to re-offend. His parole had been previously revoked at least twice: in 2007 when Witherspoon was charged with assault and returned to prison until 2010, and again when he was arrested in 2011 for sending out pornographic photos of himself over the internet.

Witherspoon’s convictions include the sexual assault of a fourteen-year-old girl and indecency with a child by sexual contact perpetrated on a fifteen-year-old girl. When law enforcement officers questioned Witherspoon outside the restroom, he gave them a false “female” name (Paula). He also lied and claimed he had in his possession a testimonial letter from a psychologist diagnosing him with transgenderism. When the officer asked to see the letter, Witherspoon produced a brochure for transgender services.

Accompaning Witherspoon on his bathroom misadventures that day was his partner, a man named Billy Lorentz, aka Billy Birdsong. Witherspoon falsely identified this man as his “husband”. Lorentz is a convicted murderer and pedophile who served a 15-year sentence for the aggravated sexual assault of a twelve-year-old girl.

Reporting on an individual as a neutral party while completely ignoring and erasing the rape of three children seems to go well beyond journalistic incompetence. Framing a serial child rapist with multiple recent arrests and parole violations involving violence and sexual misbehavior as a “victim” for terrifying women in a restroom -while erasing those crimes- is an inexcusable editorial “choice”.

Anna Waugh should be removed from her position as News Editor for the Dallas Voice.

Contact info for the Dallas Voice:


Voice Publishing, Inc.

4145 Travis Street, Third Floor
Dallas, TX 75204

Office :: 214.754.8710 Fax :: 214.969.7271

Monday-Friday :: 9am-5pm

Leo Cusimano Publisher Ext. 114
Terry Thompson President / Promotions Ext. 116

Read more about Paul Ray Witherspoon aka “Paula Witherspoon” here:

http://gendertrender.wordpress.com/2012/05/04/child-sex-predator-paul-ray-witherspoon-ticketed-for-using-female-restroom-uses-gender-identity-defense/

 

TRANSform me is a “reality show”. The premise? “Premise: A female contestant is given an internal and external makeover by a team of three transgender women stylists.”

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Phaea’s submission

Guest Post by Moira:

A hipster girl from Brooklyn, Phaea, is about to get engaged. She’s having a party in a few days and feeling insecure because she doesn’t know how to have the kind of style she wants. Her mom was a hippie and never taught her to do makeup or do her hair or wear heels. She sent in a plea for a makeover to this show.

Play by play:

 

1.52 The transwomen arrive. Laverne grabs Phaea’s loose t-shirt. “Is this what you always wear”” Phaea says it’s a typical hanging around the house outfit. Laverne asks Phaea’s boyfriend Justin if this outfit turns him on. Not really, he says.

2.00 Laverne says that as transgender women they are uniquely qualified to “take the woman inside and bring her out.” Confusing being a woman with aesthetic choices? Charming, already.

3.15 Phaea: “I can’t imagine walking around in high heels.” Laverne, “Why can’t you?” She sounds sharp, almost offended. She thinks this is a requirement, non-negotiable.

3.38 Back at the apartment the backup trans women are going through Phaea’s things; one is tossing clothes out of her closet. Jeans and t-shirts, and “grandma sweaters” are heaped on the floor. “Boy stuff? Eww!” she says. What if someone had done the same to her closet, pre-transition, I wonder. How would she have felt if someone took her “girl stuff” and said “Eww!” and tossed it out?

3.55 “All that’s gotta go. Not in a female closet! Especially not in a female living in the 21st century.” My irony-meter just short circuited. The trans woman stomps on the offending clothes with her high heels on.

4.23 Laverne asks Phaea if she feels sexy. She says no; she says she has a friend who says boys love her underwear. Phaea says she asked Justin if he even noticed her underwear; he said he didn’t, then paused and said, “but you don’t have really great underwear.” Phaea says, “Oh god! I felt like such a failure.” Yes. A failure to have every minute aspect of your life dictated by a fetishized, porn-informed male gaze. What is the primary function of underwear? Is it to excite men? Is it to keep your tender bits clean and away from friction? Sorry, I was confused for a minute.

4.34 Redheaded trans woman asks Justin if Phaea ever “sexes it up for him” in “a sexy little, you know…do a little…” and she does a stripper move. No, says Justin. The trans women act outraged and then go through Phaea’s underwear, mocking it for not being lingerie.

6.00 They take off in an ambulance because apparently this is a fashion (or cultural?) emergency. A woman is about to get married to a man and she doesn’t own lingerie or strip for him! THE HORROR!

6.16 At a boutique, they measure Phaea’s bust. One trans woman says, “Look at you! This is what I wished for when I was born!” Because having boobs means wearing ridiculous clothes. Didn’t you know? And because this trans woman is jealous of your body, you have to objectify it the way she would do. Because you owe it to her. Because it’s more hers than yours. Because she would use it “correctly.”

6.36 One of the backup trans women: “I changed myself from this wimpy, introverted boy to this, like, hot sexy luscious mama. And if I can make myself look like this, I am sure I can make a ton of women–a TON of women–look like the women they should be.” The women they SHOULD BE? Really? Do tell. How very transgressive.

7.24 More of the measuring. “Boobie time! 35 and a half–perfect. Let’s see if you have man shoulders or not.” She doesn’t. They measure her hips too. “36 and a half. Look at you!” Approval. Sure. What’s the song? 36, 24, 36. They admonish her–”This is what I wished for when I was born and you’re just hiding yours! You’re not showing it–you gotta work it!” Because being born female means you gotta “show it.” It’s. Not. For. Men. This is so crazy. These are probably homosexual transwomen, who should have no dog in this fight–why does it matter to them if a woman conforms to the straight male gaze? Oh. Because in some way they still understand her body as belonging more to them than to herself.

Phaea tries on some clothes. She tries a blouse and skirt that she says she loves–she feels good in it. But one of the trans women doesn’t love it so she starts over.

8.31 Phaea tries on a flowy bronze dress–she says it makes her feel really, really good about her body and she feels very comfortable in it, whereupon the Laverne rejects it because it can’t be worn with a bra. Not painful enough!

9.32 Phaea tries on heels. She totters. They stop her and tell her she walks like a dude.

10.04 Backup trans woman Nina: “What dude looks sexy in heels? Except…” jazz hands at self..”Well, I wouldn’t call myself a dude, but…you know…” Yes, yes I do.

10.18 They teach her a “feminine” walk. She falls, gasps, “It hurts so much!” Redheaded backup trans woman Jamie snottily remarks that *she* never had so much trouble learning to walk in heels. They tell her she has to walk with a beat in her head, and shake her ass and hips. Turns out that walking is another one of those daily activities, like wearing underwear, which must now be undertaken with men in mind. So silly! I thought it was for physical mobility.

the nigel who thinks a tranny makeover is relevant to his lifelong commitment to a woman

the nigel who thinks a tranny makeover is relevant to his lifelong commitment to a woman

11.08 Laverne tears up thinking about Phaea wearing heels to her engagement party.

12.34 Phaea says she feels sexy when she’s with her boyfriend because of the way he looks at her and treats her, but on her own, she doesn’t feel “sexy.” The transwoman tells her that she needs to stop relying on her boyfriend for that feeling and it should come from within; that they’re going to do a burlesque photo shoot to “empower” her. Phaea starts crying and says she feels terrified and doesn’t even know why. Pressed, she says she is afraid she will look stupid.

There’s a lot going on here. First of all, Phaea, like every other female, has been indoctrinated from birth into compulsory heterosexuality and told that “her” sexuality doesn’t exist outside of the need to please men and be fodder for the male gaze. But apparently her mom tried to counteract this somewhat in her upbringing. So she has what’s arguably a healthier relationship to herself as a sexual being. She only notices feeling “sexy” when being intimate with her lover. She apparently doesn’t live in a constant state of sexualizing her body, but experiences herself as being sexually attractive pretty much just within the purview of times when she is actually being intimate. However, women in Phaea’s culture who don’t live in a constant state of hypersexualizing themselves are made to feel that they are failing at being “women.” That there is something wrong with them. Because they’re succeeding at being human, and indeed this puts them outside of the mainstream to a large and potentially alienating degree.

The stated goal–to make Phaea “feel sexy” all the time–is the wrong goal. Perhaps this is a source of Phaea’s terror; she feels she may be on the precipice of losing important ground. Perhaps she senses it will be dehumanizing.

Also, we have to consider why the scripted formula for what is supposed to make us “feel sexy,” looks curiously identical to a porn-inflected, fetishizing male gaze. Lingerie is someone’s idea of sexy, but certainly not everyone’s. What is Phaea’s idea of sexy? She’s trying to understand, but she’s being shut down–and perhaps this is also a source of Phaea’s terror. Instead of exploring her own erotics, she’s being told what they should be. She’s being told by someone who stands in as a transgressive figure–someone who is outside of traditional sex/gender roles–so perhaps she believed that this person might be open, experimental, and exploratory in their approach. Instead, the “transgressive” figure reinforces the stereotypical “sexy” template in the most unequivocal manner possible.

13:27 YES!! Signs of life from Phaea!! She’s in garters and fishnets but she’s shut herself in a bathroom. When they come to “check on her” she says this doesn’t feel how she wanted it to, how she imagined it would. Laverne snickers at her and tells her that a lot of people find garters and fishnets sexy–essentially, implying something is wrong with her if she doesn’t. But Phaea says something like, “It would be nice to feel *actually* sexy and not sort of fake, play sexy.” (!!!) How difficult it must have been for her to halt this production and speak this truth. And of course, a trans person should be the first to understand when the culturally-defined markers for her gender just aren’t what feels right for her–right? NO! ARGH! The trans woman gives her some incomprehensible speech about how when she transitioned she was expressing on the outside what she always felt on the inside. She gestures at the garters and says that Phaea’s body is just a shell–that she has to connect with herself on the inside first. What?! She has to internalize this image of herself as some tarted up porn star before it will “feel sexy” to her? Maybe Phaea can tell the trans woman that she needed to wear the butchest clothes she could until she really felt sexy as a man *inside* and see how she likes it. But no, the red-eyed-from-crying Phaea (surrounded by the trans women and the camera crews and whatever other reality show offstage people) lets herself be led to the boudoir for a photo shoot instead. With a male photographer of course. I might lose my lunch.

before and after tranny (adds ten years!)

before and after tranny (adds ten years!)

Phaea puts a game face on, complies, smiles and poses, making “sultry” faces–but you can see it’s put on. What speech did she get offscreen about holding up production? Who knows. Laverne and her backups practice lots of operant conditioning, encouraging her to ham it up by clapping and cheering. Is the the “actually sexy” feeling Phaea had hoped for? Does that feeling come from being (un)dressed like this and looked at by near-strangers and photographed? She keeps saying no–and they keep not listening. So she “lays back and tries to enjoy it?”

15:40 or thereabouts. Phaea’s going for a haircut. Much less loaded. Still, the disconnect is palpable. Phaea says how she loves her hair, but her hair is so thick she never know what to do with it and feels like a Ramone. Jamie explains to her that her problem was her hair being layered so that it was too *thin* and there was “basically nothing there.” It’s *almost* like they have to contradict, disorient and destroy her entire self-concept and install themselves as the arbiters of her reality instead.

20.18 Laverne: “The most important thing is that she continues to remember that she deserves it.” Oh yeah. I’m sure our culture will never let her forget that this is what she “deserves.”

Watch the horror here: http://www.vh1.com/video/transform-me/full-episodes/phaea-episode-8/1638069/playlist.jhtm
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lipstick and, errr… bathroom tiles? mirror ball?

[photos and captions added by me-GM]

Shezow

May 29, 2013

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New docudrama of the Angelo Heddington case. Graphic.

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