new narratives 2014

Excerpted from here: http://www.pdxqcenter.org/q-center-statement-to-our-community/

 

“I rarely talk about what my transition means to me personally, and that’s because the times I have, the trans people I’ve talked to have gotten very upset even though I’m only talking about myself. Not about anyone else.

I can’t view myself as having always been a woman. Not can I view myself as being female now that I’ve transitioned. This isn’t about internalized transphobia. This is about me being proud of and accepting my past and who I am.

Before I even knew I was going to transition, I always knew I was attracted to men. I was very closeted through my teenage years, but I knew. When I finally came out the first time to my friends as gay, I swore to myself I would never be ashamed of who I was again. To say that I’ve always been a woman, more than that that I’m a straight woman, feels too much like hiding who I was. I refuse to hide or be ashamed of my past.

Because so much of my life is the story of a young gay boy struggling with acceptance, my life only makes sense to me when viewed as being male. Even since transitioning, my life still only makes sense when people know that. I can’t talk about my journey to deciding to transition without that fact. Since the moment I was declared male before I was even born, my life has been shaped by that. For 25 years it was shaped by that. Nowadays people see me as a woman, but it’s still being shaped by that.

Beyond just that, accepting that I have a male body has helped me come to terms with so much. It has allowed me to accept the things that are impossible to change while focusing only on what can be. I don’t want to spend my life hating myself for having too wide shoulders, or big hands, or a large head. Those things are just signs that I’m male and that’s ok. I couldn’t reach this point of personal self acceptance and love when I was trying to view myself as just like other women. I don’t feel I ever would have been able to either.

Yet even though this viewpoint has given me soo much strength to live, I’m afraid to talk about it because I don’t know how someone in the trans or queer community is going to react. I don’t know if they’re one of the many people who have hated me online for viewing myself differently than they view themselves.

When there are trans people online who will insult and try to ostracize people like me for speaking about only how we view ourselves, I can understand how anger has guided them to where their views on other trans people are. I would never detransition, transition has brought me too much joy, but other trans people have told me to detransition because they don’t want someone who sees themself as male while still being a trans woman. I’ve been called a terf sock puppet, a house tranny, told to kill myself, and had trans people purposely trigger my dysphoria just for saying that I found personal acceptance and a way to hold both those thoughts at the same time.

So I thank the q center for allowing these women to speak. Cause honestly until i heard about this, I’d accepted that this wasn’t something that i could ever tell other trans people again.

I didn’t know about new narratives when it happened, but if I did I would have gone. This is the first time I’ve heard of other trans women who understand my point of view. Judging by a number of the conversations I’ve seen online about this the past couple days, I’m not alone either. And it feels good to know there’s people in my community who can understand the personal journey I’ve been through.”

Read the Q Center Statement and more responses by following the above link.

Read more about New Narratives here: http://newnarratives2014.wordpress.com/

new narratives 2014

cristan williams gallus mag doxx attempt

He has the wrong woman, by the way. But he is stalking some poor woman in my honor.

This is at least the fourth woman transactivists have targeted “as Gallus Mag”.

This is Transactivism, Folks!

Miranda Raven's Penis Rights MANifesto

Miranda Raven’s Penis Rights MANifesto

Oh the huMANNNNNity!

Oh the huMANNNNNity!

Miranda Raven, the complaintant: Women are oppressing the rights of his dick. Whaaa!

Miranda Raven, the complaintant: Women are oppressing the rights of his dick. Whaaa!

Sample of a male threat, described by authorities as “typical”, that Sarkeesian receives.

Sample of a male threat, described by authorities as “typical”, that Sarkeesian receives.

After weeks of silence, the mainstream media is finally reporting on the deluge of violent threats made by men towards feminist media and pop culture commenter Anita Sarkeesian, which caused her to flee her home on advice of the FBI, and cancel a scheduled university appearance. 

While it is good that the violent male campaign against Sarkeesian is finally, belatedly, receiving widespread attention, any feminist who has ever written or spoke in public on the subject of “Gender” will note that what is unusual is not the threats themselves, but the fact that they are being reported by male-stream media.

The New Statesman posts a piece today by GlossWitch, in the shadow of the Sarkeesian fiasco, which specifically addresses the ongoing campaign of censorship against the Women’s Rights movement by the male Transgender Rights movement, whose goals are in opposition.

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McCallum

McCallum

Wealthy transgender Twitter executive Dana McCallum evaded prosecution on multiple felony counts of rape, false imprisonment, and battery, even though there were multiple witnesses to his violent rape spree, which he inflicted on his estranged wife in the presence of their children.

Dan McCallum before transgendering

Dan McCallum before transgendering

McCallum’s friends in the media enforced a news blackout on the high profile case and the charges and trial were not reported on mainstream news sites, including the outcome of today’s hearing. Social Justice Activists maintained silence on the case. The last time GenderTrender reported on this case we were locked out of our blog by Automattic/Wordpress.com for over a week. Transgender activists were concerned that the case would publicize the facts that most male transgenders do not undergo genital surgery, and that male transgenders commit violence against women- including sexualized violence- at exactly the same rates as non-transgender males.  

Trans activists demanded media blackout

Trans activists demanded media blackout

Gawker has the story:   From Gawker:

“At a hearing in San Francisco Superior Court this morning, Dana McCallum, a Twitter engineer and prominent women’s rights and LGBT activist, accepted a guilty plea for two misdemeanors related to the alleged rape of her wife. McCallum, who is a transgender woman, was initially charged with five felonies for the alleged incident, which occurred in January.

The misdemeanors were for one count of domestic violence with corporal injury to the spouse (California penal code 273.5) and one count of false imprisonment (code 236). McCallum, whose legal name is Dana Contreras will serve three years probation, 4 days in county jail (with credit for the 4 days already served), 25 hours of community service, counseling for substance abuse, 52 weeks of domestic violence counseling, as well as some minor fees.

In court today, McCallum first said “no contest” to the plea, but the District Attorney’s office insisted on a guilty plea.

McCallum initially pled not guilty to the felony charges, which included three counts of spousal rape, one count of false imprisonment and one count of domestic violence.

McCallum and her wife are in the process of getting divorced. The victim told Valleywag that McCallum served her with divorce papers two days before the incident. However, the victim also noted that the incident occurred when McCallum arrived uninvited and unexpected at the victim’s house in Noe Valley. The victim’s three children and her daughter’s friend were present that night. McCallum’s former attorney John Runfola, who has been replaced with Nanci L. Clarence, said that McCallum served her wife with divorce papers one day before the incident. The divorce has not been finalized.

McCallum’s wife read a a moving victim’s impact statement before the judge today where she said McCallum was given two opportunities to apologize, but did not apologize or ask about her welfare. She described the incident as an “alcohol fueled sexual violent crime, but said she wanted “forgiveness” to prevail and for this to be “an inspiration for other addicts,” rather than “an ugly headline for the vultures to pick over.” She said that she still loved McCallum and was disappointed by the community’s response:

I must say that it deeply saddens me that as a victim, my only public support has been from hate groups. I expected more from the LGBT and feminist community. It’s a shame that they can’t do the emotional work it requires to process that someone they love is capable of such an awful crime. That is their burden to carry, though.

 

McCallum has been working as an engineer at Twitter since 2010. She was arrested in January and released on $350,000 bail. According to an earlier report from the San Francisco Examiner, court documents stipulated that McCallum had to attend AA meetings as a condition of her release. The Examiner also obtained a copy of a criminal protective order, which stated that McCallum must not contact or come within 150 feet of her wife.

The victim told Valleywag that they had been separated for eight months. In April, the San Francisco Chronicle said:

McCallum, whose legal name is Dana Contreras, had been separated from her wife for about a year but maintained a polite, and at times sexual, relationship with her, authorities said.

The case has been deeply troubling for equal rights advocates in the technology industry both because of the nature of the charges and because McCallum, who is best know by the handle @DanaDanger, has long been an activist for feminist and LGBT causes. Last January, she wrote a piece about women and transgender people for Model View Culture. The article has since been deleted, along with McCallum’s bio, which used to say:

Dana McCallum has been working in software engineering and engineering leadership since 2000. As an advocate for women in technology and the LGBT community, Dana helped create advocacy teams at Twitter and other companies, served as a delegate on women’s issues in India, and speaks regularly at events focused on women and LGBT people in tech.

McCallum has also tweeted a number of times in support of justice for rape victims.

In April, McCallum’s old lawyer, John Runfola, aggressively denied the allegations, telling the Examiner that the victim was after a monetary gain. Twitter went public in November, 2013. The lockup period, after which Twitter employees could sell their stock, ended in May. However, unless otherwise agreed upon California divorce law states that assets like stock options are community property and divided equally. The couple has been married since 2007, before McCallum’s tenure at Twitter. What’s more, if McCallum had been convicted of felonies, it could affect her job at Twitter and therefore spousal support.”

[Bolding by me-GM.] Read the rest at the link above.

It’s a physical condition

September 18, 2014

intersex identity

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http://nymag.com/news/features/martine-rothblatt-transgender-ceo/

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