I want to know how to accept myself as a woman.

October 21, 2012

Medusa. Bermini.

Syd writes:

 So, I’ve been reading this blog for a little while now, and I kind of wanted to ask the author (or anyone) for some advice. If I go to a therapist, or a support group, they’d all tell me it’s okay to be trans and they’d want me to just live as a man, but I feel like that would be betraying an aspect of my born body. I’m also sorta of the mind that one shouldn’t treat a mental condition with physical changes. I’ve brought this up at a few meetings I’ve been to on ‘gender norms’ and the leader of the group, who identified as a ‘lesbian transgender woman’ (ie. heterosexual male?) just seemed to shrug it off as nonsense.


Thing is, I still feel uncomfortable being labeled as a woman. It doesn’t happen to me very often nowadays, because for whatever reason without hormones or any interventions other than haircuts and clothing, I ‘pass’, but when it does happen, I kind of cringe.
I don’t hold anything against women. I love women; I love masculine women, I love feminine women, I love women big and small. I just don’t enjoy being one.
I’m uncomfortable in my female body, and I’m uncomfortable in groups of females. The gender role freaks me out to such a degree that I want no part of it. I feel like if I don’t grow my hair out, shave my legs, and dress a certain way, then I’m failing to be a normal woman, so therefore being a man is easier. Other women seem to fall so easily into being women, but I seem to be failing.


Essentially, I want to know how to overcome these feelings.
Also, it should be mentioned that I enjoy both men and women, and I’m currently in a heterosexual relationship with a man who’s had relationships with both genders, so I don’t even fulfill the role as a dyke woman past a superficial definition.
Honestly I think I would rather live in a world where genders didn’t have any pretenses, where everyone could use any bathroom, dress however they felt and nobody would cared what their partner’s genitals were or who made more money, but seeing as that’s not the world we live in, I’m having trouble coping with my implied societal failure as a woman. I’d rather not end up taking hormones just to fit in with a gender role only because I meet their criteria better.
Also therapy for this seems to be nonexistent. Therapists seem more focused on getting me looking and acting and taking up roles as my preferred gender, but that’s not what I want.

I don’t want to pretend to be a man just because it’s easier, I want to know how to accept myself as a woman.
Does anyone have any suggestions for this? Do I just need to hit a pinnacle of enlightenment and hope that eventually the self-loathing will end?

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 Sister you are not alone.

I don’t say that to comfort you, or to dismiss your genuine experience with a feel-good trope, or to make you feel “less alone”.  I mean it literally. You are not alone. Your experiences are not personal or unique to you. This is an important thing to recognize in the process of “accepting yourself” personally. This is a really important point I think. What you are experiencing is not unique, and not personal.

When feminists said “the personal is political” they did not mean “our individual actions can impact the political sphere”, or “our speshul individual internal lives are important” (not implying that you, Syd are saying that here). They meant: the things we deal with personally, in isolation and silence, the things that feel like internal personal issues, are actually not. The war against woman is conducted against us individually. Daily. Personally. Picking us off one by one. Rooting us out with each misstep. With each transgression. Or for no transgression at all. She was raped because _____  (fill in the blank) specific individual singular particular personal speshul reason. Women are not raped because men are conducting sexual torture and war crimes against women en masse. She was raped because she neglected to lock her window. Because she met a guy from online three weeks before. Because she hadn’t heard news reports of a serial rapist in her neighborhood. Because she happened to live in that neighborhood. Because she was pretty/ugly black/white rich/poor old/young etc.

It is always personal. It is always singular. It is always unique. Speshul circumstance. And the system is designed to individualize, to single out, to personalize.

But you are not alone. And what you experience has nothing to do with you personally.

From your comments here I can tell you recognize that important truth on some level, intuitively if not consciously. This is a very important thing for women to realize and is the core of healing personally and individually from the mass assault against female humanity and liberation. A personal situation requires singular individualized INTERNALIZED and self-directed reflection and analysis of the personal specific singular factors involved. That is NOT what we are dealing with here. We are dealing with IMPERSONAL EXTERNALIZED FACTORS. We are dealing with a WAR against those humans born with (or assumed to be in possession of) the biological capacity of being impregnated, by those humans who lack that capacity.

Syd, my sister, what is informing your personal malaise with an impersonal war is the specifics of your experience of it. Let’s go there.

Like myself, you have tasted the forbidden fruit. When we “pass” as male, or are assumed to be male, we experience something most women will never experience: being treated as fully human. As humans, our fellow humans give our input due regard, our experience due respect, our overlord status as the ruling class due note. Both men and women defer, refer, and relate to us based on our expressed competence (as adjusted for our perceived racial and class status). Few women have ever experienced humanity. They experience the lack of it, and witness it vicariously, but they have never had the experience of humanity.

The experience of women like us is profound. Breathtaking. Like soaking in warm honey-tinged milk. My god.

Every woman on the planet would inject testosterone (or whatever the fuck) into their right eye to experience the day to day existence of being treated as a regular human that you and I have experienced conditionally, and fleetingly. What people call “male privilege” is actually the experience as being treated as a default human. A regular, normal, baseline human.

There is no male privilege. There is no white privilege. There is no class privilege. There is only the experience of being treated as fully human. Everyone should experience the “privilege” of being treated as simply themselves. As simply human. And what a wonderful experience that is for those of us consigned for a lifetime in the subhuman caste who can “pass” themselves into it. What a breath of fresh air. What liberation! What a delicious honey-tinged milk-bath of humanity. Where one is judged on one’s merits. Where what we say is taken to mean… exactly what we say. Yanno. Just normal fucking humanity.

You wonder why the elements (female biology) that impede your humanity cause your revulsion? Oh honey. You are sane, that is all. You hate the whole woman thing because you are burdened with sanity. You have personally experienced being treated as human. Something few women ever have.

You don’t have discomfort in groups of females. You have discomfort in groups of subhumans who have never experienced humanity. In a group of females who have tasted the forbidden fruit of normalcy you would feel quite normal and at ease I am sure.

Experiencing humanity is something reserved for males (and those who are assumed to be male). For now. Lets fight, and fight and fight and make that not so. Lets not individualize and internalize and personalize (and medicalize) the experience of those of us who have tasted the ambrosia of being treated as fully human. Reflect and work outward, not inward.

Medusa. Harryhausen.

21 Responses to “I want to know how to accept myself as a woman.”

  1. weirdward Says:

    Gallus – *applause* You said it. This obsession with individualising perfectly reasonable female responses to living as sub-human, or part of the slave caste, is like a 21st century version of what was happening in the 50s and 60s with medical pathologisation of angry/rebellious/depressed housewives. It was always a problem with that individual woman not being able to properly adjust to her ‘natural’ state of inferiority. All the therapy in the world didn’t help – it only made things worse – because the therapy was designed to make the woman adjust to her slave-status, not break her out of it. Eventually women woke up to what was happening, and then – yay, feminism!

    In contemporary times, if a woman doesn’t play the part of the slave well enough, then hey, she must not be a woman, cos women like being slaves, she must be man!

    I think what Syd says about being uncomfortable with groups of women…well, there’s a lot going on there. First the very basic fact that women are not taught to bond together at all, ever. This is a huge stumbling block, and many women never get over it. Usually the only acceptable form of female-bonding is to do with reinforcing each other’s slave-status – so activities revolving around men, dating, feminising rituals (clothes, make-up etc.). A woman who finds herself in a group like this and doesn’t partake of these rituals is of course going to be seen as a threat by the rest of the group. Both because she exposes the artificiality of the whole system by being female and not conforming to it, and because men punish non-conformist women, and all women know this deep down, and they fear being included the punishment that will eventually befall the non-conforming woman.

    In a way, women’s efforts to make other women conform to the slave-like femininity that pleases men is a group survival tactic to defuse male anger and disapproval.

    This male anger can take extreme and violent forms, but also more subtle manifestations. Like, for example, there are lots of heterosexual women who fear being seen with dyke-y looking women (whether actual lesbians or not) because this will lead to accusations of lesbianism from men; with all the attendant ridicule and rage.

    So, for self-acceptance as a woman, as Gallus said, I think the first step is recognising that rejection of being considering sub-human because of your sex is entirely sensible and logical. It is not evidence that you are mal-adjusted – it is evidence of sanity!

    Then, I guess, the next logical step would be to try and find some like-minded women who have also rejected slave-class status. This is where it becomes tricky! Sadly, such women are not likely to be in the LGBTQ alliance, which, these days, is all about justifying harmful social and sexual hierarchies of all kinds with vastly torturous logic. Even many women who call themselves feminists are not really concerned with ending slave-class status for all women, only with negotiating for better terms and conditions.

    And this ‘reformist’ feminist approach is a real problem, because usually the gains that one group of women get is at the expense of another, more vulnerable, group of women. So, for example, white middle-class women have finally succeeded in shaking off the domestic shackles and can now go out to work and have a career, but only because in many cases they employ poor women, often immigrant woman and/or women of color, who act as domestic cleaners and nannies. I.e., poor women are now fulfilling the role of the domestic slave that some more economically privileged white women have escaped from.

    Phew – this comment has gone on forever – but Syd, you know what? It all starts with asking questions and thinking critically with what is happening around you. Now that you’ve started, don’t stop. Keep going, and trust your instincts.

    • Adrian Says:

      Excellent original post and excellent comment too.

      Lately I’ve been reading around the internet in about various “FTM” topics and the idea that “if a woman doesn’t play the part of the slave well enough, then hey, she must not be a woman, cos women like being slaves, she must be man!” is EVERYWHERE there and leading very young women (teenagers! On hormones!) astray, with this *obsession* of determining “identity” and the rest of it.

      It’s this “if I am not happy being the image of ‘woman’ that is sold to me by outsiders (by the patriarchy), then I must not be a ‘woman’ at all and furthermore that means I’m broken.”

      We need to reclaim, to say, hey, I AM a woman, a biological fact, there is no need worry if I am or not, I AM. But HOW I am, I am a person, however I am adds data to the woman side of the ledger, I can be a person while being a woman. Because women ARE people. Together.

      One of the creepier/sadder types of things I’ve seen on so many of those “FTM” blogs are young girls starting down the “transition” path and feeling extremely anxious or transgressing for doing the smallest what I’d consider ordinary things, like… not shaving legs, or starting to wear underwear for men (briefs) or even visiting a barbershop for a cheap short haircut. They all seem to think that they can’t possibly do any of those things unless they are “men.” Some of them have tales about how their parents already hit the wall at this, when they get a short haircut and start wearing “boyish” clothing. I realize the gender policing in a lot of ways seems even stricter now that it did a few decades ago (which seems crazy, right? I mean, we can have bank accounts now, but heaven forbid we not wear sexy clothes?) but the extent of some of this surprises me.

      But meanwhile having stress at the parts of you that mark you out for getting the subhuman treatment? 100% rational! Indeed you are not alone…

    • Elin Says:

      I found this comment very insightful. It should be mandatory spread around high schools world wide.

  2. Loup-loup garou Says:

    Syd, I cringe at all the little daily interactions that are designed to remind me, as a woman, of my second-class status. I also have to deal with a lot of daily reminders that I’m not “doing femininity right.” (As far as my appearance goes, I don’t do femininity at all. Like you, I “pass,” without making any particular effort to do so. I’m generally mild-mannered, and some people misinterpret that as a form of deference, and therefore feminine. Actually, it just means I don’t like to shout.)

    Examples:

    Some guy makes a big deal of opening the door for me, with a little smirk.

    Someone assumes I can’t safely carry an object that weighs 25 pounds down the stairs (I am able-bodied), and grabs it out of my hands.

    Some guy deliberately lurches into me on the sidewalk — he actually veers out of his path to do so, even though I’ve given him room to pass. This happens to me all the time. The last time it did (ten days ago), I said, “Look where you’re going, jackass.” You know what the guy said? “Are you a man???!!!” Right. Because only men have the right to use the sidewalk without being quasi-assaulted. He followed up with the usual slurs; since he was a middle-aged fellow with a middle-class appearance, he knew some big words, and even called me “male impersonator.” (Because only men ever wear jeans and a polo shirt. What should I have expected, walking down the street in drag like that?)

    I walk into a public restroom, and some woman start screaming at me to get out, or she’ll call the police. “The men’s room is over THERE! The men’s room is over THERE!!!” When I politely point out that actually, I’m in the right bathroom, it just doesn’t register. This has happened to me liberal areas, and in conservative areas. It’s happened to me in the winter when I was wearing a coat, and in the summer when it was 100 degrees F, and I was wearing a T-shirt (i.e., something figure-revealing.) It’s happened to me in Greyhound stations, and it’s happened to me in Lincoln Center. In the Lincoln Center incident, there was no screaming, but the usher did try to direct me towards the men’s room. I informed her that no, (sigh), I was in the correct line. Interestingly, that did not stop some of the women who overheard this exchange from glaring at me. So it wasn’t that they were concerned about some man inexplicably trying to use the ladies’ room, it was the gender non-conformity in a setting marked WOMEN that made them uncomfortable. It’s like they all failed biology or something.

    The idea that a woman who doesn’t perform the female gender role somehow doesn’t accept herself as a woman is a complete reversal. To put it another way, it’s a mind-fuck. It’s like saying that human beings who swim don’t accept themselves as the descendants of arboreal primates, they think they’re fish or polar bears or something. The problem is that large chunks of society, at this ridiculously late date, don’t accept all women as women. They only accept some women as women, and that acceptance is tied to how well they perform an arbitrary gender role. You are not the problem, and your sex is not the problem.

    Even women who do more or less succeed at being acceptably feminine work extremely hard at it. That’s why there’s an entire industry devoted to it. Moreover, I’ve also heard more-or-less acceptably feminine women say that even they sometimes feel inexplicably uncomfortable in all-female settings where the bar for femininity is set high. Uncomfortable in the sense of feeling like they don’t belong; uncomfortable in the sense of being creeped out.

    Btw, you do not have to settle for a therapist who tries to change your mind about lipstick and dresses. That sounds horribly backwards. I know those types are out there, but there are also many — even in the mainstream — who would get it about the toxic effects of gender stereotyping. If you think talking to someone would be useful, you deserve better, and you can find better.

    I hope this helps in some way. GM, thanks for your patience with the overlong comments.

    Syd, once again, you are not the problem. Society just has a long way to go.

    • GallusMag Says:

      “GM, thanks for your patience with the overlong comments.”

      I love love love this thread. Speak women speak.❤

    • Loup-loup garou Says:

      Just realized my comment linking the one dude’s middle-class appearance with his word choice invoked a number of stereotypes. I regret the way I phrased that remark.

      I mentioned his appearance because a lot of liberal types, the middle-class college-educated variety, have tried to suggest to me that it’s only macho working-class guys who act the way this man did, or crazy street people. My point is that it’s not — these attitudes are pervasive up and down the socioeconomic ladder.

  3. doublevez Says:

    (Repeat of what I’ve said before, kind of). I’m trying to imagine what you look like, and I come up with about 60 per cent of the women I see every day. Women who ski, ice and rock climb, back-country hike, canoe, kayak, run, do triathlons. Spend a lot of time in the gym or working out somewhere, to keep strong for the life they love. They dress and look the part. Strong looking women, non-conforming in dress and presentation, most heterosexual, some Lesbian. Move. Seriously, move where you’ll feel more comfortable, fit in, have good life choices. It’s not a cure, just offers you more options. Still lots of sexism and misogyny everywhere, but I think the inner loathing will be dealt with ‘somewhat’, but never completely. You are female in a culture that hates you. I don’t know a woman who doesn’t have it to some degree. Usually as we get older we over come even more. xxxooo

  4. hearthrising Says:

    You sound like a person who would benefit from cognitive therapy. I would encourage you to fight for it.

    Despite appearances, psychotherapists have not coalesced in a monolithic way around the conventional treatment. The biggest problem here is that there is a strong consumer group advocating for the conventional treatment, and this consumer group is intolerant of all other treatments and very litigiously inclined. Few therapists who advocate alternative treatments will get clients, but they will get frivolous lawsuits.

    Even a therapist who sympathizes with your point of view will not necessarily want you as a client. They may feel like they don’t have enough experience to treat your condition. They may also be wary of future lawsuits if they don’t follow protocols. (not saying you would sue, but some would) They may “recommend” conventional treatment to get you on record as refusing, so they have ammunition if your case goes before the ethics board. (The only reason that would happen is if you initiated a complaint.)

    The types of therapists who are least enthralled with the conventional treatment for gender dysphoria are Child & Family Therapists (especially older ones who have successfully treated children with gender dysphoria) and Alcohol and Substance Abuse Therapists (probably your best bet).

    Keep trying. You’re entitled to treatment, and it’s out there.

  5. SheilaG Says:

    As a life long lesbian who has never gender conformed, I understand well the distaste you might feel in groups of women. I find women who are all dolled up in make-up and high heels rather repulsive myself. But really the bottom line of it all is that it is not women who make me feel this way, it is women who are acting like slaves to male approval that cause this feeling. Kind of like Malcolm X looking at black men acting like handkerchief heads.

    It’s the revulsion of seeing sisters oppressed and not free.

    Also, I have a much clearer idea of how men and women are treated because people can and do mistake me for a man. Sometimes they see me as a woman and sometimes as a man; I’ve grown indifferent to this. But what they are really seeing is a woman who doesn’t male please, smile gratuitously to please, a woman who has NEVER worn make-up, never worn high heels, and who never did all that hetero stuff, never had sex with or dated me, never ever kissed a man “romantically” never evah.

    Since I was a part of a very strong radical dyke culture, before it got ruined by pomo and gendah, when it was radical and lesbian, I’ve felt perfectly happy in those worlds.

    But because of my job, I am often in “traditional” woman’s worlds — read gender conforming, high fashion, male pleasing “MY hUZZBAND” type social blathering, I see it. It makes me sick to see women act this way.

    But this does not mean I want to be a man, because I have nothing in common with those animals, rapists, porn hounds and pigs, nothing. What I do expect to be treated as is fully human just as I am, without all the clown make-up. I don’t perform the dance of second class status known as “feminine” but I do act very much myself… straight forward, confident, passionate intellectually, delighted with life itself.

    Sure hetero women can feel uncomfortable with me as I am, but a lot of them aren’t. I always find friends who are fine with me. What saddens me is women who feel they have to become men just to be themselves, when you already are a freedom loving woman to begin with. I don’t know if you are hetero or not, maybe you are because you are with a man… I’m just responding to your post, and telling you that you are not a man, you simply want to be treated like a human being.

    I know, because I am treated as men are treated in many places. I can walk into a fine restaurant and get the best table, I can walk into a high level conference and have service people fall all over themselves to serve me, the way they defer to men all the time. Then when I’m with other very dykey friends, we get trashed and taken to the worst tables, and we have to battle it out to not be treated like dirt at the very same places where I was bowed and scraped to by male waitors etc.

    I get to see it all. The only thing I haven’t experienced is being sexualized by men or fawned over because I am a beauty or prom queen. That I cannot speak to.

    We need a women’s revolution to overthrow the male/female caste system, so that all people get treated well. Since I am a lesbian, I don’t have to care about men at all. There is no internal conflict because I love women, and truly love women who don’t act like sex objects and male pleasers— I fall in love with women who are powerful and unafraid and not role playing fembots. So I don’t know how all this would play out as a hetero woman in a relationship with a man.

    Since I have never attempted to date or get boyfriends, I’ve never had to deal with gender non-conformity in that way. And since the only time I really have to deal with men is in business settings, my gender non-conforming self doesn’t always hinder me. I don’t know if this helps, but when you do experience getting treated the way men are treated all the time, you really see the difference, and it makes you even angrier in my book.

    Any African American who passes as white or could do this probably can see white supremacy too.

  6. SheilaG Says:

    This is a really good post by the way. A very powerful commentary on what all this trans nonsense might really be all about.

    And on some level, I might be really socially out of it now, because for younger women, this gender straight jacket and hyper femininity has taken over social life of young women. I’m in my mid-50s, and hang out with lesbians my age, so we really don’t have much to do with young women who are facing all this gender hyper femininity conditioning. We didn’t live in the era of backlash, the way women are now. We were part of a huge revolutionary movement as young women, and we still have our radical lesbian feminist culture, most of which might be rather inaccessible to young women… it might seem boring to them. I don’t know.

    Even young men have very little power around me, because I am a higher level person at work, they don’t have as much training, they are at an economic disadvantage in being loaded with student debt…. it is not the same world for me dealing with these young men at work. They have to curry favor with me to get the contracts or get in the front door of our branch office. So again, my world is not the same as a young woman of today.

    Fashion and image and 24/7 media and corporate control was not as prevalent when I was younger.
    We had our struggles, but feminism and radical feminism gave us a sense of power and destiny, and we developed tactics for fighting against patriarchy— we had Mary Daly, Adrienne Rich, Audre Lorde, June Jordan, and even Ms. Magazine, so there were alternatives.

    Men pretty much didn’t exist in my world, so the femininity pressures just weren’t all that much of a concern. I was happy to be an out and proud dyke, and still am delighted in my dyke self… now I get hated on for being classist, or because I like fine cigars and brandy…. but I just smile and say, hey, I’m me and I don’t let anyone tell me what to do.

    And I am going to be proud of standing my ground, and being a part of the movement that has grown.
    I can encourage and stand in solidarity with my younger sisters, and I do what I can, but I am not hetero, and I don’t care about social acceptance or fitting in. I face a lot of hatred, discrimination… just for being me, but I also get the rewards of never conforming and male pleasing…. this pride carries me.

    I don’t know what this would look like in a heterosexual context, so this information might not help straight women. Hetero women online often get irritated with my radical lesbian self, or the fact that I don’t have that much sympathy for hetero women who complain about men. I know men are my class enemies, I know they are rapists, I know I don’t ever want to live with them, I know I would never have children…. I know I don’t need men at all, and I have to say I don’t know how women can love men, I just don’t get that.

  7. cibo Says:

    Great post and comments. Yes we feel alone, but we are not. As Loup-loup garou writes, femininity is a performance and hard work, and many are unable to do it correctly even if they try. I’m autistic and unable to perform the coquettish, submissive and fake behaviour expected from women. It makes me feel like a failed woman, even if I’m simply unable to be fake. I also recognize the dislike and disconnect to being labelled a woman. It means you are in an oppressed class of humans…no one wants to belong there!

  8. mbraaheidner Says:

    This is fantastic! Thank you so much for taking the time to create such a masterpiece that speaks of our experience as women.

  9. yttik Says:

    Well done, Gallus.

    “I want to know how to accept myself as a woman..”

    Well there ya go! That sounds like the definition of womanhood right there. Being perpetually unacceptable to society and therefore doomed to constantly fight for a tiny bit of fleeting self acceptance.

    “Other women seem to fall easily into being women, but I seem to be failing …”

    LOL, there’s another good definition of womanhood! Who hasn’t at some point, wondered why they were such a failure at being a woman? The thing is, if you scratch under the surface, no woman “falls easily into being a woman.” Everybody pays a price, whether you’re a supermodel suffering from anorexia or a gorgeous Hollywood diva addicted to drugs. If you comply to the gender expectations and actually manage to achieve patriarchal standards, you still tend to destroy yourself in the process. The game is rigged.

    I honestly believe that having a gender “identity” is not compatible with self accepting yourself as a woman. Women are seeking less rigid gender roles and defining gender as an “identity” is enforcing them.

  10. Bev Jo Says:

    Gallus, what you wrote is so beautiful. Magnificent.

    Love the medusas too.

    Syd, it’s the politics, the support, the company that helps. The basic old Radical Feminist politics that exposes male-identified femininity as unnatural and as our natural female state as beautiful is what makes the difference. It makes us proud to be female. And the less obedient to male rules, the better.

  11. Becky Green Says:

    Hi Syd, whether you’re hetero, homo or bi, true feminism can help clear your head of negative clutter and give you a vantage point to view the patriarchal landscape we live in. With distance comes perspective. You are on the path to defining yourself, which incidentally, is exactly what society tells men to do for themselves. Be patient while you explore.

    I thought I’d include a link to a feminist blog written by a hetero woman. I just wanted to show that true feminism is about what’s best for women regardless of sexual orientation.

    http://righteous-anger.blogspot.com/

    By the way, “third wave feminism” is a fucking oxymoron. Those who subscribe to it are a motley crew on a lost ship being lured to the rocks by the songs of MEN. Men do NOT get to decide what is in our best interest!

  12. liberalsareinsane Says:

    “By the way, “third wave feminism” is a fucking oxymoron”.

    It’s bimbo “feminism” that strippers, hookers and males subscribe to; hence the “slut walks”. lol.

  13. doublevez Says:

    I’m sorry, but this made me feel really sick about myself. Just a sinking sick feeling in my stomach. It takes so much to keep on, and this just dropped me.

    “You don’t have discomfort in groups of females. You have discomfort in groups of subhumans who have never experienced humanity. In a group of females who have tasted the forbidden fruit of normalcy you would feel quite normal and at ease I am sure.”

  14. weirdward Says:

    “Those who subscribe to it are a motley crew on a lost ship being lured to the rocks by the songs of MEN. Men do NOT get to decide what is in our best interest!”

    That is the funniest image! I can so see a ship-load of crazies blundering about lost on the ocean; no doubt spending all their time on BDSM and PIV and making porn and agreeing about how clever and enlightened they are whilst heading straight for the rocks.

    Problem is…they’re trying to lead entire ship-loads of folk into disaster right along with them.

    We need a radical feminist fleet.


  15. Beautiful writing, GallusMag.

  16. Cara Says:

    I’m okay with being a woman but I still am uncomfortable with gender roles. It could be that you’re not uncomfortable with your body but rather the culture you live in that requires you to behave in a certain way to be labeled a woman.


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