Becoming a Woman: Avoid the Linear Stance

November 13, 2012

“Feminine Movement for TG women” by “Femininity Coaching From Denae”


Lets begin with how to STAND, in a feminine, sensual way.  I am most often asked by those who have studied my Vol 1 DVD—to please explain again– how to stand and sit in an S-Curve.  Review Vol 1 but herewith a short review. Most men stand linear, and they generally do not use much hand movement (except shaking hands, waving or crossing their arms) so we want to break out of the linear by using what I created called the  S-Curveto look  casual, sensual, sexy, or really sensual.

Day 1  Study yourself  while in guy mode when you can see your reflection in a mirror or large window. You will probably be like most men, which is standing with both feet flat on the ground and your hands down to your side (and often not swinging them while walking or swinging from the shoulders). This creates the straight l shape.

Day 2 Begin to take the weight off one of your feet, you can do this while in guy mode….the magic comes when your makeup is done and dressed. In the beginning this will be difficult to remember, so don’t beat yourself up, just make the correction. Again, you can do this while in guy mode as it will not “look feminine”. until your dressed.  This is the foundation for your footwork  when creating the Sensual S curve. Place one foot forward  slightly while the other foot stays in the back–and be certain no weight is on the FRONT FOOT, EVER. Next, you will only begin walking on your front foot which does NOT have any weight on it. I tell my clients to repeat FFF. Free Front Foot.

Day 3 Please break these up into days, as I do not want you to go on to the next step, until you have the previous day down; otherwise everything will fall apart –as much as you would like to tell yourself “Oh, I will remember to do that, its easy”. Wrong. I have seen this in my 12 years of  my private coaching for TG women, habit will be hard to break. However, once you feel the difference, you will be on your way to your first curve. Most men will step off on their BACK foot, (again men generally stand with their weight on both feet).

Day 4 After learning to place one foot slightly forward with the back foot solid on the ground –Lift the heel off the ground of the FFF.  In the beginning think of it, like a clock. Your back, base foot will be at 11:00 while your front, feminine foot will be at 1:00 or a slight 2:00. You can also learn, by placing the heel of your front foot into the arch of your base, back foot. Later, we will open this slightly.

Day 5 After lifting the heel up (which a man would never do) slightly tilt your FFF knee inward. BAM you have a major curve, which is the foundation of your S Curve. Try this with no shoes on, then in a heel. Practice this way of standing (it is called a hesitation in modeling) in the shoes with the heel height you most  often wear when you’re out dressed. Get ready, lets create another curve.

Day 6 Always, always begin to walk with your front free feminine foot. Why? Try stepping off with the back foot which has the weight on it. You will be stuck in cement, it never moves. It is your base, foot which holds you up really well, in heels when standing. Try it. When stepping off on your base, back foot did you feel how your entire body came forward, showing larger shoulders, arms and hands? This will be a difficult habit to break… first.

Day 7  Now, back to standing. You have your heel up and knee in which closes up any OPEN SPACE. You do not want any open space between your knees and your feet. Once you’re standing with your feet in your hesitation, with your heel up and sexy knee pointed inward, I want you to lift up your diaphram and roll your shoulders up, back, and down which will bring attention to your breast! Now, twist at the waist. You have another curve.

When your shoulders go DOWN, they will not look as large  however your breast will Remember roll them up, back, and down…feel your breast come forward and making your shorter.

Day 8  Next your shoulders. Tilt your shoulders one direction or the other, while you’re in your hesitation. You now have your next curve! You can use either shoulder, so practice tilting your left shoulder forward and then your right shoulder. You will need a mirror to see this. Remember to keep the heel up and the knee in, up at the waist, shoulders up, back and down and one shoulder pointed to the side. This is a really great tilt for photo taking, as only one shoulder will show and your breasts will look larger, oh yes and your stomach will be lifted! Remember the hesitation or this all falls apart later when we begin stairs, cars. Now, try tilting your head to the opposite side, than the shoulder you use. This is another curve. Not so hard, right?There is no right or wrong, just don’t stand in your guy stance.

Day 9 If you want to feel “more casual” take your FFF and slide it over and open away from the base foot about below the same shoulder. This is called an “open hesitation” You simply slide your FFF over onto your big toe, bend that knee in a little more. This is great when you’re wearing jeans for a casual stance. Your closed hesitation is more for a sophisticated look. And, I use it as a way of teachhing everything we do, we start with a closed hesitation.

Summary: You will find one foot more comfortable than the other– for your front foot and the other for your base foot. Your base foot needs to be your stronger foot, as it holds you up. As in Karate…they stand with one foot forward, right? Why? Balance. By placing your FFF forward you can use it to support yourself or to “prop” yourself up. This is very important for girls who are just learning to stand and walk in heels. Plus is gives you a much more feminine appearance than standing with your feet apart with weight on both feet, right?

Please visit my web site, and for more information on standing and walking. Also, email me your comments and questions. I will be happy to answer your questions in this blog, and it will help other girls, so step up and ask me anything on standing, walking, going up and down stairs, getting in and out of cars, putting on a coat, having someone put your coat on, how to carry your handbags, and how to swing your hips by using your back heel! You do not have to have this perfect…I suppose it more about what NOT to do so you don’t  look like a guy in a dress. By standing in an S Curve you will give that first 3 second impression a feminine appearance. Next, we can cover walking, so you have  men jumping out of their chairs to get that second glance, as you walk by! And, have fun with it and please get the basic hesitation down.  How many S Curves can you create!  So, there you go ladies. Have fun creating all the S curves you can, that fits your frame and the individual look you want…but remember to leave the linear at home with your guy clothes! Denae Doyle of  if you would like to contact me directly. This is also a great area to cover at your next TG support group!

22 Responses to “Becoming a Woman: Avoid the Linear Stance”

  1. Mortified Says:

    Ah. This indeed is the essence of femininity. All that stuff about having babies counts for naught. Study hard and practice, ladies! Especially if you have been doing it wrong! This guy can teach you! And for $275 for three hours plus $75/hour thereafter, it’s a bargain!

  2. alamia Says:

    Becoming a woman? I thought they already were women. Isn’t that what they claim? And if they already are women, why on earth would they need to try so hard to learn how to walk, talk, stand, eat, drink, etc like a woman?

  3. I’m waiting for the article dealing with those embarrassing days when your menstrual blood leaks onto your clothes.

    • Adrian Says:

      That’s where the oh-so-feminine look of your jacket tied around your waist as you take tiny little steps down to the nurse’s office comes in, surely.

      Ah, awkward days of high school.

  4. Branjor Says:

    LOL! This post should come with a spew alert!

  5. magdela33 Says:

    So glad I never try to stand like a laydee – too bloody hard.

  6. easilyriled Says:

    good lord. never mind that usually people who stand and walk like that are fucking up their backs…it also clearly indicates less status, high vulnerability generally no sense of kilter–feminists spend a lot of time taking up our share of space in that ‘linear’ way this dude claims is innately male.

  7. Loup-loup garou Says:

    They could visit his website, or they could just watch this catchy Disney number:

  8. katieB Says:

    Are you kidding me??? This would be considered extreme by a 1950’s finishing school. Gross.

  9. Adrian Says:

    As someone who never did learn to stand and walk in heels, this all just seems WAY too complicated.

    Flat shoes and both feet, works for me. Nerdy? Well so be it.

  10. Becky Green Says:

    Check out the first line of this article. I have a sneaky suspicion that this guy, Kate, took lessons from Denae. I’m sure he was all too aware of his body movements the day he was interviewed by the Telegraph. I bet he practiced in the mirror the night before, to ensure he’d pass his “feminine audition” with the reporter. It’s just a hunch, let’s call it my “woman’s intuition.”

    Now look at what he went through to become his fantasy creation.

    I guess becoming a woman is the new favorite pastime for men with lots of cash to blow.

    • cabochon Says:

      Ha! That’s what I was thinking when I read this. They can add their femininity collection to their thousands of comic books and video games.

    • Marie-France Lesage Says:

      From “kate’s” revolting web-site:

      “…Finally, the UK medical system seems to make all trans-women think that they must exhibit some form of genital self-hate. That is not, in my experience, why most women go through SRS. For me it was mainly because I wanted to have sex like a girl, I wanted men to want me for me not for my “boy bits”, and I wanted to wear clothes appropriate to my new gender without unsightly bulges. SRS is merely one of many steps on the road of transition, and in my view much less important than FFS…”

      Basically, he spent tens of thousands in PUBLIC MONEY so he could fulfill his fundamental desire to “have sex like a girl”.

      Think of the cancer screening, diabetes treatment, broken bone setting, etc. that could/should have been paid for with those tens of thousands.

      But no, this self-declared “highly successful business owner” had had his sexual fetish wish fulfillment underwritten in great part by the NHS.

      Has everyone on the planet gone insane? We’re spending THOUSANDS in public tax dollars enabling perverted creatures who want to cross-dress “without unsightly bulges”?!?

      Really, people?

    • Sketcher Says:

      Ha ha ha! I like his advice on ‘choice of language’: Try to say ‘I’m popping to the loo’ not ‘I’m going for a slash’. How lovely.

      Helpful hints to MTT:

      Other no-no’s may include: ‘Look at the arse on that’, ‘Don’t fancy yours much’ and, ‘Sit on my face!’ especially when shouted out of vans.

      Yet more: ‘Smile, it may never happen’, ‘Out on your own tonight, girls?’ and, to women out cycling – ‘Lucky little saddle’.

      ‘F*ck you, you c*nt!’ or ‘Are you a lezzer?’ (if the lucky lady in question does not respond to you) are also big give-aways.

  11. Marie-France Lesage Says:

    I prefer to stand with my boot heel on the neck of anyone who tells me that I’m not feminine enough.

    ‘Nuff said.

  12. trust your perceptions Says:

    When looking at yourself in a mirror, he tells other men, “you will probably be like most men.”
    Yeah, you are. And kinda interchangeable too: Transgression, transgression, transgression.

  13. the thing that strikes me in all these stories is pain attached to being a male and how they will do anything to avoid feeling it. including horrendously traumatic surgery, body mods. and trans people are such closed books when it comes to discussing the reasons why, it’s no wonder that post transition they still continue to have so many problems. i figure it’s like gastric band surgery, sure you’ll lose weight but if there are reasons that caused you to over eat then it’ll have done nothing to address those.

  14. moose Says:

    ‘so you have men jumping out of their chairs to get that second glance’ (and women rolling their eyes…)

  15. Lydia Says:

    I watched very carefully at the bank and the grocery store yesterday. The only–and I mean ONLY–women who assumed that contoured, hyper-sexualized “S” curve were the ones on the covers of the magazines. Even the teenage girls desperate for male attention didn’t walk or stand like this fetishistic man suggests. It is so obvious that what these men are obsessed with is the mass media/porn image of what women are supposed to be, not what any women actually are. Nobody could actually function in real life by constantly striking a physically useless pose. Please. What I saw was tired women hauling multiple small children around while trying to stretch their paychecks to cover the groceries. The gap between male fetish and female reality grows ever more enraging.

  16. radicalwoman Says:

    Uuuuuh, I stomp around in my steel toed boots. My back hurts way too much after HAVING AN ACTUAL BABY OUT OF MY ACTUAL UTERUS AND VAGINA to bother with any such ridiculous crap, not that I can recall ever doing such a ludicrous thing beforehand either. I just, you know… walk.

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