Is Transgender the “Get Out Of Rape Prosecution Free Card”? Twitter rapist Dana McCallum walks

October 7, 2014

McCallum

McCallum

Wealthy transgender Twitter executive Dana McCallum evaded prosecution on multiple felony counts of rape, false imprisonment, and battery, even though there were multiple witnesses to his violent rape spree, which he inflicted on his estranged wife in the presence of their children.

Dan McCallum before transgendering

Dan McCallum before transgendering

McCallum’s friends in the media enforced a news blackout on the high profile case and the charges and trial were not reported on mainstream news sites, including the outcome of today’s hearing. Social Justice Activists maintained silence on the case. The last time GenderTrender reported on this case we were locked out of our blog by Automattic/Wordpress.com for over a week. Transgender activists were concerned that the case would publicize the facts that most male transgenders do not undergo genital surgery, and that male transgenders commit violence against women- including sexualized violence- at exactly the same rates as non-transgender males.  

Trans activists demanded media blackout

Trans activists demanded media blackout

Gawker has the story:   From Gawker:

“At a hearing in San Francisco Superior Court this morning, Dana McCallum, a Twitter engineer and prominent women’s rights and LGBT activist, accepted a guilty plea for two misdemeanors related to the alleged rape of her wife. McCallum, who is a transgender woman, was initially charged with five felonies for the alleged incident, which occurred in January.

The misdemeanors were for one count of domestic violence with corporal injury to the spouse (California penal code 273.5) and one count of false imprisonment (code 236). McCallum, whose legal name is Dana Contreras will serve three years probation, 4 days in county jail (with credit for the 4 days already served), 25 hours of community service, counseling for substance abuse, 52 weeks of domestic violence counseling, as well as some minor fees.

In court today, McCallum first said “no contest” to the plea, but the District Attorney’s office insisted on a guilty plea.

McCallum initially pled not guilty to the felony charges, which included three counts of spousal rape, one count of false imprisonment and one count of domestic violence.

McCallum and her wife are in the process of getting divorced. The victim told Valleywag that McCallum served her with divorce papers two days before the incident. However, the victim also noted that the incident occurred when McCallum arrived uninvited and unexpected at the victim’s house in Noe Valley. The victim’s three children and her daughter’s friend were present that night. McCallum’s former attorney John Runfola, who has been replaced with Nanci L. Clarence, said that McCallum served her wife with divorce papers one day before the incident. The divorce has not been finalized.

McCallum’s wife read a a moving victim’s impact statement before the judge today where she said McCallum was given two opportunities to apologize, but did not apologize or ask about her welfare. She described the incident as an “alcohol fueled sexual violent crime, but said she wanted “forgiveness” to prevail and for this to be “an inspiration for other addicts,” rather than “an ugly headline for the vultures to pick over.” She said that she still loved McCallum and was disappointed by the community’s response:

I must say that it deeply saddens me that as a victim, my only public support has been from hate groups. I expected more from the LGBT and feminist community. It’s a shame that they can’t do the emotional work it requires to process that someone they love is capable of such an awful crime. That is their burden to carry, though.

 

McCallum has been working as an engineer at Twitter since 2010. She was arrested in January and released on $350,000 bail. According to an earlier report from the San Francisco Examiner, court documents stipulated that McCallum had to attend AA meetings as a condition of her release. The Examiner also obtained a copy of a criminal protective order, which stated that McCallum must not contact or come within 150 feet of her wife.

The victim told Valleywag that they had been separated for eight months. In April, the San Francisco Chronicle said:

McCallum, whose legal name is Dana Contreras, had been separated from her wife for about a year but maintained a polite, and at times sexual, relationship with her, authorities said.

The case has been deeply troubling for equal rights advocates in the technology industry both because of the nature of the charges and because McCallum, who is best know by the handle @DanaDanger, has long been an activist for feminist and LGBT causes. Last January, she wrote a piece about women and transgender people for Model View Culture. The article has since been deleted, along with McCallum’s bio, which used to say:

Dana McCallum has been working in software engineering and engineering leadership since 2000. As an advocate for women in technology and the LGBT community, Dana helped create advocacy teams at Twitter and other companies, served as a delegate on women’s issues in India, and speaks regularly at events focused on women and LGBT people in tech.

McCallum has also tweeted a number of times in support of justice for rape victims.

In April, McCallum’s old lawyer, John Runfola, aggressively denied the allegations, telling the Examiner that the victim was after a monetary gain. Twitter went public in November, 2013. The lockup period, after which Twitter employees could sell their stock, ended in May. However, unless otherwise agreed upon California divorce law states that assets like stock options are community property and divided equally. The couple has been married since 2007, before McCallum’s tenure at Twitter. What’s more, if McCallum had been convicted of felonies, it could affect her job at Twitter and therefore spousal support.”

[Bolding by me-GM.] Read the rest at the link above.

112 Responses to “Is Transgender the “Get Out Of Rape Prosecution Free Card”? Twitter rapist Dana McCallum walks”

  1. GallusMag Says:

    Please respect the victim’s privacy in comments. Thank you.

  2. Smits Says:

    Trans has been a get out of all kinds of criminal behaviour card for a long time now in leftist communities. Anyone with even a passing familiarity with the gender fandom on tumblr knows they spit out another abuser every few months- the most recent one was actually castigated, since some of his victims were teenage trans males, but before that they all came rushing to the defence of a Vermont paedophile hiding behind his so-called womanhood to groom young girls. I’ve heard even more stories from real life queer politics bubbles- men who rape butches or trans-identified young women and then pretend they themselves were the victims, men who take over groups and organisations to make everything they do serve male interests, men who guilt trip women into sex or just exhausting all their energy and resources on manfeels.

    Being trans allows sick white hetero male fuckwads the ultimate abuser’s accessory- everyone knows they are straight white men and treats them with the same privilege, but on top of that they get to claim to be the most oppressed of the oppressed and rake in all the hand-wringing sympathy of the left. The more oppressed you are the more truthful what you say must be, so if one of those mean awful TERFy cis bitches says a poor innocent delicate trans woman hurt her she MUST be lying.

  3. townie Says:

    Dan’s name before transitioning was Neumeyer, not McCallum.

  4. lin Says:

    Once again trannies make women look bad. This comment on the story shows that readers believe Dana got off (no pun intended) because he’s a “woman” and therefore got special treatment, not because he’s a rich delusional man:

    “Good thing men and women get the same punishment for crimes, AMIRITE LADIES?! MUH SOJINY!!!1”

    Correct me if wrong but the victim must have agreed to the plea deal being extended. I’m guessing she felt bad for Dana and didn’t want him to be fired and register as a sex offender. But couldn’t she hold out for at least six months incarceration?! FOUR DAYS of time served?!

    And calling her supporters “hate groups” while she was abandoned by the LGBT crowd, doesn’t she see where the real “hate” exists?

    • FabFro Says:

      Given our man-made society, it seems like the victim might be in a no win type situation. I mean, if she gets him fired and actually sought out justice [which she rightly deserves], she’d be labeled as a hate filled bigot that hates transwomen. That right there would ruin her and her future.

      It also seems that she had to call those who are helping her a ‘hate group’ for safety reasons or else the tranny troopers would be all over her calling her a terf.
      Defending yourself as a woman is sexist, transphobic and bigoted if it’s against a transwoman; the most oppressed of the oppressed.

      It seems she knows who he is, who he knows and what he’s capable of. It seems she’s trying her best not to step on any traps, and that seems to mean pretending things aren’t all that bad. How sad.

      • lin Says:

        The victim’s tweets lead me to believe she did not care for the plea deal.

      • GallusMag Says:

        @erin is the victim’s friend (who has been making public comments). The woman Dan/Dana raped has not made any comments or tweets regarding the plea bargain or any of today’s events, except for those she made in court.

      • lin Says:

        @GM I understand if you don’t want to print these or id the source, but I saw this on [redacted]’s twitter, Sept 29:

        Hm. TIL a misdemeanor domestic violence charge can apply to a kick in the shin OR a violent rape! Fascinating.

        Shin-kicking, rape, all the same to a criminal court.

      • GallusMag Says:

        @lin- I redacted the name. I’m not sure if I’m going overboard here but I’d rather err on the side of caution in terms of what the victim might want. Anyway: Wow. I stand corrected. Thank you for your excellent reportage. x

      • branjor Says:

        Shin-kicking, rape, all the same to a criminal court.

        Gives a whole extra meaning to “criminal court.” Not only a court which adjudicates criminal cases, but a court which IS criminal itself.

      • RR Says:

        Her referring to women who support women as members of a “hate-group” does not read to me like an act of self-preservation. She wants to be clear that only a bigot hater would question the sanctity of her rapist’s special laydee feelings. This mentality is all about men first- obfuscating male violence and supporting abusive male fetishists like her heterosexual rapist husband over the safety of women. The malestream LGBTQWTF and the liberal fauxmanists are not allies of women and anyone woman who still thinks so is asleep at the wheel of their lives. The only “hate group” I belong to is the one that hates rapists. It makes me sick that he got less than a slap on the wrists and I wish her the best moving forward.

      • FabFro Says:

        @RR-“Her referring to women who support women as members of a “hate-group” does not read to me like an act of self-preservation. She wants to be clear that only a bigot hater would question the sanctity of her rapist’s special laydee feelings. This mentality is all about men first- obfuscating male violence and supporting abusive male fetishists like her heterosexual rapist husband over the safety of women.”

        And this is when we put radical feminism into practise and ask: why?
        Why would these women defend men? What could they possibly gain by doing so?
        See, no woman sides with an abusive man for the lulz of it. The reason for siding with him is for ‘safety’ reasons. Because think about it this way:

        -What’s going to happen to her, her job or kids if she calls the women who are helping her a hate group? Nothing.
        Are any of us going to threaten her with rape or murder? Are we going to make sure she never gets a job from here on out? Will we stalk her? No, we won’t do any of this and we as women, and even men, know this. Therefore, it’s safe to bully women without a backlash.

        -Now we ask what would happen if she called men/transwomen a hate group? Even if this man is her rapist. Will she lose her job and lose the ability to get a job from here on out? Will her kids get taken away from her? Will she get stalked? Will she get threatened with murder or rape? Are men capable of doing these things to her? Can men bring on a backlash for her speaking out against them?
        Can she and her kids afford to handle such a backlash for who knows how many years?

        We as women know what men are capable of, so to the point of him painting the picture of two sides: the winning side [joining him] or the losing side [opposing him]. If women do not have the support, finances and boldness that she needs in order to survive, she’s not going to pick the ‘losing side’.

      • RR Says:

        @FabFro, I understand what you’re saying, I understand the survival of women in male society. But I do not see this as self-perservation but as preservation of the status quo, including one’s own social status. Not just the quip about the “hate groups”, but more so the message that it is so important to respect Dan/a’s special laydee feelings through this. Standing up saying that Dan/a raped me with his penis may have made more an impact that pretending this was one women molesting another woman.

        GT was actually shut down after reporting this story! There was almost a complete media blackout surrounding this precious trans technorati rapist. The other sites that did report it pretended this was a “female-on-female” rape (can you hear the MenRightsers chanting it: See woman rape, too!!! This one was a feminiazi!!!) It was just a regular ol’ rape- a man raping his estranged wife in her home, but muddying the waters (identity politics, biology denying, etc) is the name of the trans game. A totalitarian leftism has emerged recently in online media that is pretty bone-chilling and makes it all the more important for women to speak our truth.

        Women who practice resistance to male domination are punished for it- always, to varying degrees based on a number of socio-economic factors.

        “And this is when we put radical feminism into practise and ask: why?”

        If one puts radical feminism into practice than these are the personal issues you have to consider in your own life- financial losses, social losses, structural violence or even physical violence. Pulling oneself from under the thumb of male control (or Influence) is almost Sisyphean, so we make choices. These choices do not hold equal weight and if you make choices that benefit you socially/financially, while throwing other women under the bus, you will not get my applause. You usually will not get my criticism either, but in this case it was a public statement that a rapist’s “gender” should be respected. I think it sets a dangerous tone to encourage victims to respect the laydee feelings of a male rapist above the actual reality of what happened.

        I said it below, but it is worth repeating, that this woman was very brave to not back down under what must have been intense pressure- she has all of my support and sympathy. I’m just tired of everything being considered an issue of a woman’s survival when in many cases it is absolutely not- it is still about maintaining a social status with male-identified circles that degraded and despise women.


    • I am honestly surprised she even tried to get justice, She is a BRAVE women, very brave, I hope she can remain safe.

      If she accepted a plea, it’s likely because she wanted to survive, preferably in one piece. A man like that won’t stop, and I am sure she knows it. We ALL know how these situations often end. Vicious, even fatal, violence, with no punishment for the perpetrator, and nothing but derision for the victim.

      Making matters even worse- He also has an entire network of the sickest, most violent, woman haters that would be thrilled to hurt her in the most vile of ways. I am sure she is aware that his buddies could stalk her, libel her, trash her life, violate her body, all without recourse.

      Then there is the added bonus of having even women hating on her for “transphobia”. Women that ought to be horrified on her behalf are likely circling around this predator, making excuses for him while reviling her. It is truly disgusting.

      II hope if she ever read this, she knows WE understand. WE have her back. WE know what he is- an abusive, sick, monster.
      Stay strong, sister.

      • Teal Deer Says:

        “I hope if she ever read this, she knows WE understand. WE have her back.”

        Unfortunately, I suspect she’s talking about us when she says only “hate groups” support her. I don’t know if she’s willingly drunk the kool-aid, or if she was force-fed it, but either way, her situation is a tragedy.

    • Maureen Says:

      Just to note that victims do not have to agree to plea agreements. The prosecutor, defendant and judge do. Sometimes victims are very unhappy with plea agreements, in fact. I don’t have any information on whether that was the case here or not, but Mr. McCallum’s wife would not have had a say in his sentencing; therefore, would not have had the option of “holding out for at least six months of incarceration.” Would that it were that rape victims had a say in the sentencing of rapists, but sadly they do not. I would, however, love to see her sue the hell out of him in civil court. Of course, for reasons mentioned by Fabfro, that could be very dangerous for her.


  5. So they support her when the GLBT community throw her under a bus and she still call them “hate” groups?!? I ferl really badly for her. Clearly she’s been traumatized.


    • Can you imagine what would happen to her if she DIDN’T call them hate groups? I shudder to think. Whether its a conscious effort at damage control, or a heavy dose of sanity preserving denial, I am sure she is just dying to survive.

    • Ashland Avenue Says:

      I’m sick of being called a “hater” because I don’t buy the tranny bullshit, no matter from whom. You all are better people than I. I’m not there yet…maybe later. I’m still too angry about the whole damn thing.

      • RR Says:

        Ashland, I am over here with you. My support and sympathies are with this women in all of this- she is in a very vulnerable and scary position and she was very brave to not back down when there must have been intense pressure to do so. I just can’t understand how/why I could/should respect my rapist’s delusions or refer to women who refuse to accept any more male BS as “haters”.

  6. FabFro Says:

    Now this is just some messed up bull funkal right here. But, thank you Gallus for the update!

    Reading this just proves once again how trans’women’ keep their male privilege; a dood who knows a dood, who knows that other dood who know this special-powerful dood that will get you out of any trouble. This is great if you’re a man, but as we see, spells out nothing but trouble and pain if you’re a woman.

    I won’t be shocked if we see the “Not all transwomen are like this! Because I here by declare myself as a sweet angel that harms no one. I could care less about real women, I’m really just here to defend myself and other transwomen by saying: this transwoman is a violent monster! But not all transwomen!” committee coming out in full force, thus proving once again that they are indeed men, because women don’t say crap like that! We don’t have a “Not all women” campaign going on…We don’t have that kind of privilege.

    Ugh.

    I can only hope that this case, and, unfortunately, many others like this one will be a wake up call that just because he puts on a dress doesn’t change that he’s still a male. Because it seems like simple 1+1=2 type logic, but for many it just goes right over their head.

    • PF Says:

      Except they won’t even say *this one* is bad or wrong – see also “Synthia” who was obviously a wronged delicate angel and if anybody says different, it’s because we’re members off the Kluxers or something. (Yeah, tell me that to my interracial Jewish face.) *Men* at least have enough conscience left to distance themselves from obvious abuse, crying “Not ALL men!” As though it’s a defense. Laydees don’t even do that. They go on the offense. And how *dare* cis bitches say boo about it? Because *obviously* LaydeePeen is *different* and would shrivel up if ever used in a rape. *snort* Or even if he commits murder, she must have driven him to it by noticing he was stealing lingerie.

      • FabFro Says:

        Gosh darnnit, now when I’m looking for the comments I can’t find them. But I was able to find one. They are indeed rare [for now], but do exist as damage control so that no one will tell them to stop wearing Victoria Secret’s cheap China panties that they stocked up on at their semi annual sales…

        I thought there was a couple in the Ebony’s case on here, and I think another NATALT in the Phallus Fox post, but I might be mistaken. I’ve seen NATALT at some other sites in the comment section, but it was awhile ago, and I can’t remember the sites. I just remember coming across those comments.

        I could never put a tag on why those comments bothered me until just yesterday when I realized it’s more of them pleading: “If I prove to you that some of us are good angels, can we then keep our sexxxay laydee clothes?!”. So, yea, nothing to do with real women, but everything to do with them keeping their privilege of wearing women’s oppression for their erections.

      • PF Says:

        Thank you for the correction. Most of what I had seen was seriously -we don’t do stuff like that, unless we’re really, really driven to it and if you say otherwise, you’ll be responsible for all the suicides… Or whatever.

        But no, Not All Trans is not a significantly better response, just slightly less delusional in that it recognizes that someone did a bad thing, which the majority, ime, are not prepared to concede.

        Sent from my iPhone

        >

        [Your iphone is posting with your full real life name. Did you intend to do that? It’s fine if you did, many women do. But please pick one name to post under on this site. I switched it back to PF until you get it sorted. -GM]

      • FabFro Says:

        “But no, Not All Trans is not a significantly better response, just slightly less delusional in that it recognizes that someone did a bad thing, which the majority, ime, are not prepared to concede.”
        —-
        I keep going over in my head what’s the big deal with men wearing women’s clothing in the first place? I mean, so what in what he does in private, right?
        But then I keep coming back to something, something that is bold and factual in our face; men have no boundaries.
        There’s the quote that goes “give a man an inch and he’ll take a mile”. So it can start off as just buying women’s clothing and him claiming that he’s hurting no one and us believing him. But what we have to understand is that the women’s clothing section is seperated from the men’s for a reason and we can even look at the section as a space. So even while just shopping for clothing in a store, he has entered into a woman’s space.

        So maybe the women here will say that he can have Victoria’s Secret, right? Ugh, he can take it! But what we have to remember is that women, even young girls still shop there. That when he goes in to try on his ultra sexxxay clothes, that there is no men’s changing room. So where is he trying on his clothes? So we have to understand that when he’s buying women’s clothes, he could very well be buying from women exclusive stores. First her changing room, why not her restroom? Why not her gym? Why not her sports? Why not be a Lesbian? Where does he draw the line? When does he start to place down the boundaries?
        After all, he is a women now since he buys women’s clothing from her spaces, right? He’s got a female name people call him by. People even use female pronouns when referring to him. He’s got breast like a woman. He wears bras like a woman. He might even have a neovag like a woman. Isn’t he a woman, now? So why can’t he use our spaces?

        If he’s made the laws to suit his needs, then too far is not far enough.
        And we know men have no problem lying on and blaming women. So when a transwoman says “Oh, I didn’t want to go into the ladies room! But me and my girlfriend were having such a great conversation that when we got to the bathroom, I paused. She told me to come on in. I told her ‘no, I don’t think that’s right’. But she told me that she didn’t want to go by herself and that if any one in there gave me a hard time, she was going to beat them up. While I was greatful for her fierce support, I still didn’t want to intrude on other women, but I didn’t want to let my friend down either. So I went in and felt so guilty all while in there!”

        Now all of a sudden he just can’t tell her no. Now he’s all shy and delicate. We see this same crap from men who said their female spouses wanted to watch porn, get into a threesome, or roleplay out a rape. All of these things show his maleness by needing very little to no coaching into getting him to do so, but blaming the woman as the one who really wanted it. He was just being the Nice Guy and doing so just to make her happy [And the audience goes Aaaw]. Yet trying to get him to travel, go to a play, visit the in-laws or getting in touch with his feelings takes endless pleading, begging and bribing for months even years!

        Him taking over, justifying his actions [Not all men/not all transwomen], erasing women [What about the men/transwomen], projecting on women and even silencing women is a very male thing that doesn’t go away just because he’s in dress. So even when these men in dresses claim that they care about women and young girls, we have to ask does he care when he’s breaking into our boundaries? Does he care when he traumatizes women and young girls as he enters into our spaces with his very maleness? Because if he really cared, then he wouldn’t do it.

        It’s funny, because even while women might wear and shop in the men’s clothing department, she doesn’t go into the dressing room and masturbate while in there. She doesn’t try and take pictures of him while changing. She doesn’t enter into his bathroom and try and rape him. She sets boundaries and draws a line of how far is too far. Men have no boundaries and need none as long as he’s in control.

        Give a transwoman an inch and he’ll take your dang uterus.

  7. kesher Says:

    “served as a delegate on women’s issues in India”

    Totally makes sense for someone who has no clue what it’s like to be a woman even in the United States lecture to women in India about their own goddamn oppression.

    India famously, to the genderists, is more accepting of trans women (supposedly). Why isn’t McCallum serving as a delegate on *trans* issues?

    • Ben X Says:

      That detail really made me mad and I’m a first-world white guy like him. Being a woman in flippin’ India is the opposite of anything that this guy has ever experienced, FFS.

    • FabFro Says:

      Kesher, when you mentioned further down that Dana doesn’t pass as a woman, I went and Googled and watched an interview that was boring as all get out. However, he actually talks about how and why he started working with women in India.

      Video is here:
      @35:55 he talks about what’s it like working with men.
      @40:00 he talks about taking the job in India.

      I do not feel like dismantling all the wrong he said in that video, so I’ll let someone else have al that bag of fun.

  8. lin Says:

    Despite being “just” a misdemeanor, 273.5 is described as a serious domestic violence crime (http://www.shouselaw.com/domestic_violence273-5.html). This page describes it as a “wobbler” that can be either a misdemeanor or a felony.

    273.5. (a) Any person who willfully inflicts corporal injury resulting in a traumatic condition upon a victim described in subdivision (b) is guilty of a felony, and upon conviction thereof shall be punished by imprisonment in the state prison for two, three, or four years, or in a county jail for not more than one year, or by a fine of up to six thousand dollars ($6,000) or by both that fine and imprisonment.

    http://www.leginfo.ca.gov/cgi-bin/displaycode?section=pen&group=00001-01000&file=270-273.75

    The other violation, 236, http://www.leginfo.ca.gov/cgi-bin/displaycode?section=pen&group=00001-01000&file=236-237, has a longer sentence, but most of it is about human trafficking.

    236. False imprisonment is the unlawful violation of the personal
    liberty of another.

    236.1. (a) Any person who deprives or violates the personal liberty of another with the intent to obtain forced labor or services, is guilty of human trafficking and shall be punished by imprisonment in the state prison for 5, 8, or 12 years and a fine of not more than five hundred thousand dollars ($500,000).

    http://www.leginfo.ca.gov/cgi-bin/displaycode?section=pen&group=00001-01000&file=236-237

    237 seems more applicable to this case:

    237. (a) False imprisonment is punishable by a fine not exceeding
    one thousand dollars ($1,000), or by imprisonment in the county jail for not more than one year, or by both that fine and imprisonment. If the false imprisonment be effected by violence, menace, fraud, or deceit, it shall be punishable by imprisonment pursuant to subdivision (h) of Section 1170.

    (I think that subdivision is for felonies -lin)

    This is not even a slap on the wrist. Sentences have been increased before after public outcry. Seems justified here.

  9. sharonredwood Says:

    The criminal justice system said that O.J. Simpson was innocent too. If the man has hella $$$ and a high priced shark for an attorney, he can get by with murdering or raping a woman. It happens all the time.

  10. sharonredwood Says:

    “At a hearing in San Francisco Superior Court this morning, Dana McCallum, a Twitter engineer and prominent women’s rights and LGBT activist, accepted a guilty plea for two misdemeanors related to the alleged rape of her wife. McCallum, who is a transgender woman, was initially charged with five felonies for the alleged incident, which occurred in January.

    The misdemeanors were for one count of domestic violence with corporal injury to the spouse (California penal code 273.5) and one count of false imprisonment (code 236). McCallum, whose legal name is Dana Contreras will serve three years probation, 4 days in county jail (with credit for the 4 days already served), 25 hours of community service, counseling for substance abuse, 52 weeks of domestic violence counseling, as well as some minor fees.

    Why do they refer to McCallum as a “women’s rights and LGBT activist”? Since when is a biological male who was found guilty of one count of domestic violence with corporal injury to the spouse (California penal code 273.5) and one count of false imprisonment a “women’s rights activist”? He “transitioned” during the marriage, is the biological father of the child, and still had his male genitalia, having sex with his wife after he “transitioned”. Men who beat their wives aren’t “women rights activist”. This poor man has to attend domestic violence counseling just like other men who beat their wives. He won’t spend one day in jail.

    Men who abuse their wives isn’t anything new, but men who “identify as women” and abuse their wives are “women’s rights activists” even if they still have their penis when they are abusing their wives. It really is twisted and sick. Men who are misogynistic to the core and abuse women rarely change. I feel sorry for any woman who gets involved with this man.

  11. shediogenes Says:

    25 hrs community service? Where? Oh let me guess, a DV shelter, rape counseling center?

    This POS is running around representing women?!

  12. sharonredwood Says:

    “At a hearing in San Francisco Superior Court this morning, Dana McCallum, a Twitter engineer and prominent women’s rights and LGBT activist, accepted a guilty plea for two misdemeanors related to the alleged rape of her wife.”

    A woman was NOT charged with raping another woman. McCallum is the biological father of the children and “transitioned” during the marriage. We are supposed to believe that men magically lose their male socialization after they “transition”.

    I do feel sorry for his wife, or soon to be ex-wife.

    “I must say that it deeply saddens me that as a victim, my only public support has been from hate groups. I expected more from the LGBT and feminist community. It’s a shame that they can’t do the emotional work it requires to process that someone they love is capable of such an awful crime. That is their burden to carry, though.”

    Gallus, are you a “hate group”? I don’t think you are a “hate group” at all. Men who abuse women and the people who coddle and enable them are “hate groups”. Isn’t it interesting that the trans controlled LGBT (the “L” really doesn’t count anymore) turned their back on an abused woman and mother of the children. I’ve read that the wife really supported all things trans, and McCallum’s transition.

    Isn’t it interesting that the only time violence against a woman is a “hate crime” is if the woman is male? If the wife was charged with spousal rape or abuse of the transwoman wife, then trans activists could scream “hate crime”. Since the victim is only female, it’s just violence against a female which is so common place that it doesn’t count.

    Wishing the wife all the best….

    • GallusMag Says:

      Yes, if someone raped a femulating male, and received a 4 day jail sentence, the transgender, “LGBT”, and social justice communities would be enraged at the injustice. Since the victim is female, and “transwomen” are actually NOT women, they do not care.

      To the transgender, “LGBT” and social justice communities, the male violence and rape inflicted upon real, actual females is of no consequence or import whatsoever. We are less than human to them.

      • Ashland Avenue Says:

        Gallus, THAT is why I’m so angry right now. (Well, it’s one of many reasons revolving around this case, but it’s a biggie.) I don’t see any coverage of this at LGBTWTF sites. Sickening.

      • a cat Says:

        GM this is so true. I am horrified but understand why she would see it as “hate groups” who were giving her support. It’s understood by society that if you’re female, your dominant partner (almost always male) has the right to chastise you when you get out of line. One day I would like to tell a true story on a feminist blog about what that can lead to.

        But normally there’s a way you deal with men – you aren’t “uppity”, you “understand and respect their feelings” you avoid upsetting them because you aren’t one of those hateful bitchy feminazis who detest men (culturally speaking)…..and because viscerally, you know what you’ll get if you do. It becomes completely conditioned and you accept your role.

        Women are not human to men. I like some men, and am very fond of others I’m related to, but I know I don’t appear fully human in their eyes. It doesn’t matter if the man puts on a dress and some eyeliner and has breast implants. We are not to them what they are to us.

    • oooooooooooo Says:

      “the trans controlled LGBT (the “L” really doesn’t count anymore)”

      Truth be told, it’s more like TBGL now.

  13. Meeester Sneeky Says:

    I enjoyed the usage of the verb “transgendering”. I have permanently added this word to my vocabulary.

    ex. “Bob was sick and tired of being overtly manly, so he transgendered himself until he became Barbara.”

    ex. “Jane was sick and tired of the color pink. She thought the only way she could wear the color blue was if she transgendered herself into Jack.”

    That’s all I came here to say.


  14. I am absolutely disgusted. I try hard to stay out of these issues but it seems you just can’t avoid it, just like you can’t avoid male violence right? It’s all around you most of the time.

    The reality is fear for me. I’m afraid of a male socialized person. Look at what happened to her! He raped her and beat her!

    • K Says:

      I have a friend who actually believes in this line of thinking. I remember a recent altercation we had in the wake of a horrible situation…

      She had been sexually assaulted by a ‘transwoman’ friend of hers and had to get an abortion. Shortly thereafter, she demanded that I stop calling her by female pronouns and began policing me about my loyalties. She would ask me every time we spoke if I ‘actually cared about transgender people’ or if I was ‘just being polite’.

      I was so angry at her for falling into the trap, for rejecting the truth that that MAN did NOT CARE about her. He only wanted what he wanted, and once he got it he never bothered to speak to her again.

      But instead of realizing that just because he wore makeup and called himself by some female name did not make him a woman, did not make him her friend, instead she turned on me. She actually told me that she thinks physical sexes are imaginary like gender.

      I want to tell her that pretending she isn’t female won’t take back what he did to her, but that would be horrible of me to say. Because unlike a transwoman, I understand the fear and the pain and self loathing that come hand in hand with the reality of a female body. We are not people to men, we aren’t human beings when compared against a man in a dress. I wish I could tell her that treating them with reverence won’t awaken any in them for her.

      It’s a horrible situation, but nothing uncommon, especially amongst young lesbians online now. It makes me wanna die.

  15. naefearty Says:

    I know the wife. We haven’t communicated for some time – not since I left the toxic soup of “support” for partners of men who demand that the world calls them “women”.

    I am aware of her back story, how she met him, and other details of the relationship up to the point where she left Indiana to move to the West coast to be with him.

    Dan always treated her like shit. She had an ex husband who was violent and controlling, and who threatened to take her children from her many times. Dan seemed (by comparison) like a gentle angel compared to that. But she couldn’t see him for what he is. She would complain bitterly about his selfishness and indifference to her needs, but always forgave him, filling herself with self doubt and blame and excusing his assholery by putting it down to the difficulties of being trans. She worked while Dan went to college and sat on his butt playing video games with her kids (he is not the biological father btw) and when he left for California with barely a glance over his shoulder she was distraught). I could tell from the telephone conversations she would recount that he was working toward moving on and exiting the relationship one moment and whining about his own shit the next. She was pretty much given an ultimatum. Move to California or take a hike. She suffered terribly over this. Her ex was adamant that she would not get her kids. But she went, gambling that she could get custody.
    I didn’t hear much after that, but piecing together what I have read sporadically, she threw herself into the SF queer scene and became the standard bearer “supportive” wives of men in dresses. She was lauded and courted by the movers and shakers in the tans cult. Dan’s assholery was always put down to his “issues”, or brushed aside as NATALT. She was groomed by the cult and felt that she had found a community that cared about her. How wrong she was.
    When I read about what had happened, I wasn’t surprised in the slightest. She was mad about the boy. She still is. I feel deeply sorry for her. She was vulnerable when she met this POS. She remains trauma bonded to him.
    I sent a message to her through her friend on Twitter saying who I was and did she remember me, and saying that I believe her and was thinking of her, hoping that she is OK and has the right support around her. I didn’t hear back. I guess I am part of the “hate group”. So sad. So very sad.

    • silverside Says:

      This is EXACTLY how fathers rights groups groom 2nd wives/girlfriends to act as their fronts and attack wife #1. She will be demonized as a b**** who did nothing but lie about him abusing her. She doesn’t deserve those kids. They are his! She will believe this until he starts kicking the sh** out of her (seemingly out of “nowhere” after the honeymoon period) and threatens to take their new baby.

    • Teal Deer Says:

      Forgive my ignorance, but Google’ s not helping me out and I haven’t quite figured it out based on context when I’ve seen it… What does NATALT mean?

    • kesher Says:

      Is the victim significantly older than McCallum? Would that have factored in how badly he treated her? Like maybe one reason he thinks he’s God’s gift is because he thinks she “can’t” do better?

    • VC Says:

      “Trauma bonded” indeed. One can only hope that this guy messes with the wrong woman and she pops a cap in his ass. Meanwhile other women in exploitative situations can use this case as a lesson – accommodating a fetishistic user is always a losing game. If she’s still mad about this guy, instead of mad at him, she needs serious mental health therapy.

      • WordWoman Says:

        Unfortunately, being trauma-bonded prevents a woman from learning a lesson, though certainly other women who aren’t traumatized may reach peak trans because of stuff like this.

        If anyone is interested, read up on Stockholm Syndrome, then it may make more sense because it’s hard to make sense of it as an observer. Yes, getting help for your mental health can be part of the recovery process if you are traumatized and trauma-bonded. This stuff does cause serious mental problems.

        It’s important to be careful not to blame the victim when the victim is a woman. Rape is traumatic for women and so many have been traumatized in this way. The perpetrators often groom women to get Stockholm syndrome so they won’t be caught.

  16. gxm17 Says:

    Don’t the trans-activists realize that when they cover up and justify trans violence against women, they are doing the same thing that athletic departments do when they absolve (and embrace) the rapists in their midst? It’s so bizarre because it’s the same androcentric, misogynist behavior—people with male anatomy abusing and raping women (and girls) with a cultural stamp of approval. UFB…or perhaps all too believable.

  17. Me Says:

    Never crosses your mind that YOU ladies might be the hate group she’s talking about?

    • GallusMag Says:

      I doubt it sir. I presume she is talking about John McClain and the other right-wing men. It’s generally only rapist men and “transwomen” like you that think lesbians and feminists are “hate groups”,

    • lin Says:

      It did occur to me. It’s unfortunate. So, Me, is that all ya got?

    • gg Says:

      Why, yes, sir, it did. Sad that we are seen that way, but I feel confident that as people get to know your ilk a bit better, they will understand better. I do note that you’re entirely unconcerned about the real story here — the violent rape of a woman. What a surprise! Do keep broadcasting who you are. You are far more effective than we are!

    • RR Says:

      Dan/Dana raped his wife with his penis. If stating this fact makes me a hater, that’s strange and pathetic, but pour me a cuppa Haterade bro, AHHHHH YEEEAH!

  18. silverside Says:

    Another thing that may not be recognized here is that even after pleading guilty to misdemeanor rape and domestic violence, “Dana” will still AT MINIMUM have joint custody of the kids–that is if he doesn’t get FULL CUSTODY. Anything his wife says that could be interpreted as “bad mouthing” will be construed in the California family courts as “parental alienation”–a “condition” invented by MRAs to explain away why the kids express fear/hatred/estrangement regarding the abusive father. Mummy must have brainwashed the little darlings! It’s all her fault! In general, studies have shown that abusive fathers are more likely than fathers in general to pursue custody of the kids, and that they are successful in getting what they want about 70% of the time. So yes, his ex is in a horrible place right now and it’s only going to get worse. In addition, men like “Dana”–even if they haven’t “directly” abused the kids up until now (“merely” exposed them to abuse, which is the infliction of emotion abuse/trauma), this often changes after custody is established. Now these guys are out to punish the woman in the best way they can–but denying access and hurting the ones she loves best.

    • Maureen Says:

      Yeah, this is absolutely disgusting. Exposure to domestic violence against their mother IS a form of violence against children and yet our courts continue to put children in harm’s way by giving custody to men who have already abused the child by abusing the child’s mother. For whatever it’s worth, exposure to domestic violence is recognized as a form of mental violence against children in international law — not that that means a damn thing to US courts (or courts in a lot of other places either.)

    • RR Says:

      Dan/Dana is not the kids’ bio father (according to a poster above). If they were not adopted by him, than hopefully they will be able to cut all ties to this dude and move forward.

  19. Jane Says:

    McCallum’s victim is suffering from the same Stockholm Syndrome as women in fundamentalist religious cults like Vision Forum and Quiverfull. The liberals at the Gawker and elsewhere are as callous toward her as fundies toward the victims of monsters like Doug Phillips or Bill Gothard.

    Get assaulted by males from a protected group (Rotherham) or a liberal golden boy in a dress and you will be at best ignored, at worst victimized all over again. The liberal reaction to this case tells me everything I need to know about trans activists and their supporters, as well as most LGBT orgs.

  20. GallusMag Says:

    This is one of the sickest things I’ve ever seen in all my years covering the “gender” issue:

    http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/10/08/should-twitter-suspend-lgbt-engineer-accused-of-raping-her-wife.html

    Truly nauseating.

    • WordWoman Says:

      Ok, then. We need a new category “‘women’ with penises” and rape vs “women with citorises” and rape. Always reminding certain people that penises are not large clitorises.

      How in the hell they can call this rape a “woman to woman” interaction just boggles the mind. I think I need to go sit quietly until my brain unscrambles. Probably will take a while.

      This is a good example of the slippery slope whereby someone initially complies with a request to call XY persons “she.” So as not to raise a fuss. We end up with a bunch of surreal events that are real-life emperor’s new clothes. Always more danger to women as part of it.

    • Jane Says:

      Trannies and their suckups know on some level that MTFs are just as violent as other males. Therefore they need to cover for that hatefact by framing their assaults as “female violence”.

      So class female not only gets tarred with the “cis violence” brush, but with the actions of psychotic MTF trannies as well. Nice.

      • PF Says:

        First of all, Gallus, there simply aren’t enough words to thank you. I found your site after being hit on by a MtT who hit BINGO all in one go – over sharing, failure to notice boundaries, “so much prettier/more feminine”, stereotyped femininity, and afterward a cotton ceiling complaint when pass ignored. Finding your site helped me recognize why the encounter bothered me for weeks afterward. Peak trans in one encounter.

        Next, Jane, this, this, this!

    • neme Says:

      I can’t get the comments to load on that site, so I’ll have to post it here.

      This is not “female-on-female rape.” It is obscene and horific to call it such. Whatever McCallum identifies as, or even passes as to those who don’t know he’s packing a penis, the fact remains Dana McCallum is an intact biological male – an adult human with a penis – a penis that he used to repeatedly rape a woman.

      Dana McCallum is not a woman. Dana McCallum is not a lesbian. Dana McCallum is a male who uses his penis to violate unwilling women, and uses his male fists to batter women, and uses his male money and his male-run networks to silence women and children. He is an imposter. How dare other sites call him a feminist, or a woman of any sort.

      These are terrifying days for us. The war on women is being waged by men in dresses, who demand to speak for us, who appropriate our culture, our images, our very identities. They want us all dead so they can replace us.

      Dana McCallum is a monster, and every woman knows it. Dana McCallum is a rapist, and every woman knows it.

      Dana, you will never be a woman. You will never be a lesbian. We hate and fear you, and any woman who humours you is only doing it out of fear. She is stifling the disgust she feels when she looks at you. Apparently you get off on women’s fear, or you wouldn’t be a rapist. All you deserve from us is our contempt. One of these days you will face justice, you lying monster. It will be served cold, but it will happen. I pray that day comes soon.

      • GallusMag Says:

        They usually censor all comments that hurt genderist men’s feels (including those men who are rapists).

      • kesher Says:

        Dana does not pass, not to anyone with functioning eyes, and ears, I’d wager.


      • Dana McCallum is not a woman. Dana McCallum is not a lesbian. Dana McCallum is a male who uses his penis to violate unwilling women, and uses his male fists to batter women, and uses his male money and his male-run networks to silence women and children. He is an imposter. How dare other sites call him a feminist, or a woman of any sort.

        Yes, thank you. The stupidity of people who can call this man female is just beyone me.

      • Dogtowner Says:

        I posted a comment yesterday, saying the obvious, and Survivorthriver has posted many excellent comments. I am calling this functional psychosis — the utter denial of reality coupled with the ability to walk, to talk, and to hold a job. Not comprehending basic biological sex is psychotic.

    • PF Says:

      I couldn’t even finish it. “Female” on female? Oh, hells, no.

    • anon male Says:

      ” In researching for this article, I posted queries in multiple forums for female journalists for resources or recommended experts for female-on-female rape. I received only one response”

      Ah, the hipster feminist JournoList strikes[out] again.

      While I’m not a fan of journalism that says that your own personal anecdotes as a writer are worthless but soliciting them from the same five go-to internet egoists somehow makes you objective (these are the same ass-clowns who enabled Hugo Schwyzer after all), it’s interesting that she admits that they failed her here, even as she worked to further their agenda.

    • Teal Deer Says:

      That was a frustrating read, to say the least. At first, I was encouraged to see the author calling for accountability, but then that “female on female violence” push was a punch in the gut. The comments were mostly people with a grasp on reality (I’m suspecting some of the readers here amongst them), but who knows how long before they’re purged.

    • AreUSayingWhatUThink Says:

      Here’s (apparently incapable of connecting the dots regarding immutability of biological sex, feminism and sexism) Emily Shire on motherhood:

      http://blogs.forward.com/sisterhood-blog/169549/is–too-soon-to-think-about-motherhood/

      Love the reference to “biological window” – gee, hmm, what’s that in reference to? Facts of life, birds and bees, all that immutable stuff?

      • AreUSayingWhatUThink Says:

        As well, Shire even references “hard biological facts.” Guess that doesn’t apply to trans, I guess? Shoddy journalism.

  21. jose Says:

    It’s astonishing the LGBT movement has managed to convince people that feminists hate women.

  22. sharonredwood Says:

    @Naeferty,

    I didn’t know that McCallum isn’t the biological father, but isn’t it true that he “transitioned” during the marriage, and still had his penis when he was charged with rape? What is on the marriage license? When he was married, did he call himself a man? There is no doubt that he is male.

    @Gallus, I agree that this article is one of the sickest things I’ve ever seen. A female WAS NOT CHARGED WITH SPOUSAL RAPE. FEMALES DON’T HAVE A PENIS. McCallum was born male, and socialized as male, and lived most of his life as a man.

    http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/10/08/should-twitter-suspend-lgbt-engineer-accused-of-raping-her-wife.html

    “Female-on-female sexual assault is rarely talked about and there are relatively very few resources on it. That is likely because the incidence of female-on-female assault, or, for that matter, women as sexual or physical aggressors in general, isn’t remotely comparable in size or scope to the problems of men as abusers”.


  23. […] clarification but they did not respond. We note, also, a conspicuous lack of condemnation of McCallum, who apparently still works at Twitter, from anyone ecept radical […]

  24. Bev Jo Says:

    …”prominent women’s rights and LGBT activist”??? Oh my fucking god. The statistics on women being violent again increasing….

    • GallusMag Says:

      Emily Shire, a Harvard graduate writing at The Daily Beast literally calls this female-on-female rape. She is literally calling him a lesbian rapist.

      • LQ Says:

        Hey! Long time listener, first time caller. I love this space. I’m so glad to have found this brilliant analysis and intelligent commentary quite some time ago. Many thanks to all who participate here, with additional unending praise and adoration for GallusMag. Re: this Twitter dude – One word: SPERM. We know he has pharmaceutical breast tissue, an expensive hairdo, a killer fucking IT gig, and a laydee peen, but surely mainstream readers, let alone a Harvard graduate, understand that sperm = male.

      • Dogtowner Says:

        I think if one thinks penises are female, then sperm is lady jizz.

  25. AntagonisticThinker Says:

    Disgusting. I won’t comment on the plea bargain (sounds like s/he got off way too easy, but I know so many factors go into plea bargains….). But for anyone to act like this was an act of violence by a WOMAN, that this was a woman raping another women????
    I can not believe how quickly the world is becoming topsy-turvy. I don’t believe a man who has cosmetic surgery to look like a woman, is a woman, he is a man who has had cosmetic surgery. The fact that anyone with a straight face can call a transvestite (a man who enjoys passing himself off as female), an actual woman??? But, I guess headlines of a man raping a woman, don’t get clicks, since they are all too common.

  26. GallusMag Says:

    http://www.ebar.com/news/article.php?sec=news&article=70077

    “In a phone interview Tuesday, the victim, 48, who didn’t want her name published, said she was disappointed that the sexual assault charges were dropped, but she said, “I want [Contreras] to get the help she needs, and I want her to be accountable for what she did, and I don’t want this to happen again.”

    The woman declined to say exactly what had happened during the incident. She also said she didn’t want the focus to be on Contreras being transgender, but on domestic violence and substance abuse. Contreras, whose name is also listed in court documents as Dana McCallum, is also supposed to get substance abuse counseling, she said.

    The Bay Area Reporter wasn’t able to reach Contreras for comment. In response to an email Tuesday, Nanci Clarence, her attorney, said, “Neither I, nor my client, has any comment.”

    In a request for a domestic violence restraining order filed after the incident earlier this year, the victim said it started after her teenage children saw Contreras “stumble in drunk” at 3 a.m. one morning.

    The file reviewed by the B.A.R. didn’t include details of the actions behind the charges, but in the records, the woman wrote, “the third time she gouged her nails and fingers into my back in a sort of bear hug to hold me in place. I was crying, but did not want to be too loud, because of my children. … After the third assault, I was able to struggle away, she rolled over and passed out.”

    The documents include a copy of a photo of the victim’s back that shows what appear to be several welts.”

  27. GallusMag Says:

    Great post on the harm of calling rapist men like Dana “women”:
    http://glosswatch.com/2014/10/08/stuff-2/

    • a cat Says:

      That was a great post indeed GM. This madness that the victim was raped by a “woman with a penis” and that what is unfortunately an act of violence carried out constantly, daily by men can be best understood by calling it “woman on woman sexual assault” – it’s surreal, it’s like being in an alternate universe. If you say “a man here used his penis to rape a woman” the crime is not that a woman was raped, it is your “transphobia” leading you to “misgender” a violent rapist. That is, undoubtedly, what feminists were fighting for all those years…the right of a rapist not to get his feelings hurt.

      I also reread the Charlie Hale F Word article and was amazed again by its stupidity and malice. Trans/genderqueer etc men with media platforms and who aren’t exactly short of a bob or two seem to get their fame accusing any woman who stands against them of being white and privileged, which is a laugh from them.

      (Sorry Gallus Mag for going OT a bit here!)

      The dream of all these people, from Emily Shire to Charlie Hale, to the Die Cis Scum and You Have Stabbed Me In My Trans Heart By Existing types, is to no-platform everyone who isn’t them and their two best mates (one best mate, because the other one gave them a funny look the other day and is probably secretly transphobic). This is an absolute disgrace to the concept of no platforming. To say a man raping a woman with his penis is a man, now is grounds for no-platforming? Fuck right off with that shit.

      I am antifa. I’ve physically opposed fascists (real fascists, offline, not rude people on Twitter) which I strongly doubt Mr Hale or Ms Shire have. No platform means “no platform for fascists”. It doesn’t mean “No platform for everyone we disagree with on anything ever”. That insults the reason for it being put in place.

      I was also angry that the F Word would refuse an article of a woman in the Tory party about conservative feminism on a “no platform” basis. I fucking hate the Tories but they are not declared fascists and they should not be no platformed. I would have liked to hear that woman’s views on why she felt Conservatism and feminism were compatible. I have no doubt I would strongly disagree, but letting her speak is important. Letting women (not men with dresses and penises) speak is the opposite of what these fuckers seem to be about.

  28. sharonredwood Says:

    People are ignoring the proverbial elephant in the living room which is male socialization and male violence. He did have his penis when he was charge with rape, but it goes deeper than this. Below is a link to who is incarcerated in the U.S. I generally trust the Department of Justice Statistics. Scroll down to Table 9. In EVERY category of violent crime, there are far MORE males convicted than females. For example, under rape, 67,900 Male compared to 700 Female. I don’t know how they define rape, and I don’t know if this includes MTFs. This is a very good question. Under other sexual assault, 89,100 Male compared to 1,300 female. Again, are they talking about biological females or MTFs. At any rate, it’s well over 90% male who commit violent crime. We can’t look at rape and violence without looking at male socialization and a misogynistic rape culture.

    http://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/p11.pdf

    What does this have to do with McCallum? It’s the same old same male socialization and male pattern of violence, except this time we have to pretend that McCallum is so very, very, very special that we can’t even raise the possibility that he is just another angry guy fueled with male rage, and he chose to that takes out his frustrations on women.

    It’s just not the fact that he still had his penis when he was charged with rape. There is also the issue of male socialization in a sexist and misogynistic culture. If a person is born male and raised male in a misogynistic society, how is it possible for him not to be influenced by it? Why is it that over 90% of rapists are male, and most violent crime is committed by males? There is something deep and profound going on, and it’s so embedded in our culture that we don’t ever recognized it. How can humans born male, raised as male, socialized as male in a rape culture suddenly give this up when they “transition”? They magically give up twenty to thirty years of male socialization once they “transition”. No one really believes this, not deep down in their hearts. Anyone who has researched rape know that it’s all about control and domination. Rape is not a sexual act as much as a way to dominate and control.

    To state that male socialization and a misogynistic culture of rape aren’t responsible for rape statistics is an insult to the entire female sex. This reeks of MALE ON FEMALE VIOLENCE, and women know it. I’m sure even the wife knows it, but she is too terrified to speak.

    Most rape victims never see justice, and this is no exception, especially if he has money and connections. Nothing new here…

  29. Cynthia Frank Says:

    GallusMag, I want to thank you for GenderTrender. This site provides consolation and is an antidote whenever I read Trans stories in Huffington Post, The Advocate, etc. I wish that I could just stay off the internet. The last thing to catch my attention is an article about a punk rock musician whose promoting himself, his album, and something called “TrueTrans.” Women go through traumatic changes in their lives and don’t have the opportunity promote themselves, and make tons of money by exhibiting their lives as a circus. I have to stay off these sites. Thank you, again.

  30. lin Says:

    Could it be? Dana McCallum a *former* Twitter engineer? I’m not sure how to interpret “currently” if the job ended in Sept. Maybe just didn’t update anything but the date.

    Still, why do I suspect no matter what happens Dana will land on his feet.

    http://imgur.com/cKJ1cta

    • Sage Says:

      Well, rape is celebrated by psychopaths such as Dan and his cronies. Heck, that is their most wielded threat of silence. So, yes indeed, he’ll land on his feet.

      BTW: Have you guys seen the trailer for that propagandist series Transparent? I just saw some previews on YouTube through invading ads. Now, I can see the tranny-loving cultists signing petitions to nominate the series and the actors, like it happened with that tranny Carmen Carrera – the “model” whose body looks like a silicone-deformed Barbie doll. (Yet real female models aren’t supposed to look fake like Carmen, but it is ok when a silicone-stuffed body that carries a dick does it. Talking about fucking double standards.)

  31. Therese Z Says:

    He has a penis and was convicted of raping a woman with it, and you still say “her” and “she” in your descriptions?

    Lord, when will sanity prevail? The elegance of biological truth will live again!

  32. GallusMag Says:

    This is just terrifically sad.
    “Not All Men”.
    ————————————-

    It’s Not About Her Ex: A Trans Partner’s Story
    Posted by helenboyd – October 16, 2014
    My friend M. is a woman who was assaulted by her ex. Her ex happens to be a woman, too, of trans history. When the news of what had happened broke, her story was drowned out by all of the people who only wanted to use their story as an ideological argument. They took the focus from the personal, intimate, terrifying crime that happened and put it instead on the identity of the person who was guilty of committing it.

    Those of us who are partnered to trans people are used to this, to some degree. The trans person takes up all the space; they’re the ones people are interested in, who people go out of their way to validate or compliment or criticize. We disappear.

    My friend needed to press charges, to see justice of some kind, to let her children know that they should never let a lover treat them like this no matter who the person is or the “reason” for it. Instead, reports about the crime disappeared her, the victim, and so the very tiniest thing I could do to help was give her a platform to tell her story.

    I am embarrassed and ashamed that my fellow feminists and others have made this about everyone but the person it should have been about, and who effectively forced by friend to speak up as a trans ally instead of being able to focus on her own healing.

    So here’s what she had to say:

    TO all of the people who deny the personhood and womanhood of trans women,

    I am the woman who was victimized by my former spouse. She recently pled guilty to two misdemeanors for domestic violence. The news about her crime has been commented on by people for whom her trans status and her genitals seem to be of utmost importance, and who want to use my ex as a way to somehow “prove” that she’s really a man and in turn that her bad behavior somehow means that all trans women are “really” men (and that all men are, in turn, incorrigibly violent and likely to rape).

    My own voice has been drowned out in all this, so I wanted to say a few words.

    You are so focused on history and the genitals of the person who violated me. It’s literally the loudest conversation out there, drowning out the actual victim’s story – MY STORY. It is also, GROSSLY missing the point. I’m calling you a “hate group” because your anger regarding the violence against women perpetrated by men has so taken over your brain that your hairtrigger hatred automatically pounces on ANY OPPORTUNITY to denounce trans women as men, and to denounce men for how horrible they are.

    My case is not about the genitals of my wife. Her chromosomal structure and genital configuration and that she was assigned male at birth have got NOTHING TO DO with the sexual violation of my body. Why does it matter if she used her penis or even has one? WHO CARES?? You want so badly to create the “all men/penises are evil” platform, that you can’t see the anguish your comments cause me, the victim, and other victims of sexual abuse.

    The CRIME here was not her gender configuration. What if she had XX chromosomes or a vagina? What if she had used a carrot? A bamboo plant? A fist, a dildo, or ANY OTHER BODY PART OR OBJECT? The CRIME was the sexual violation of my body by someone I loved, who was under the influence of alcohol. THAT should be the focus of this conversation, not the instrument used.

    I’ve always supported my wife’s transition. I didn’t know her as a man for long, but it didn’t matter to me because I loved who she was and didn’t mind what form her body took: I knew that I would love her body forever. She was a gentle, sweet, vulnerable person. It’s one of the things I loved about her. She was the most considerate intimate partner I had ever had. She was a far cry from my previous marriage, where a cisgender male did indeed commit all the crimes you would attribute to a male abuser. He was all the horrible things without the alcohol.

    I loved our intimate relationship. That’s what makes this crime particularly horrifying. It was something I LOVED. Something we BOTH loved. It wasn’t her genitals that caused the crime. Even during the assault, she was saying I was beautiful, over and over. She didn’t even know what she was doing. It was like she wasn’t THERE. She wasn’t angry or saying horrible things. On the contrary. But that was the real mind fuck. When I told her to stop and that we weren’t going to be doing that this time, and that she would regret it in the morning, she just said, “No I won’t”, like ‘don’t be silly’, and she didn’t stop. And she wouldn’t stop. And she kept hurting me. And hurting me. She was someone else then.

    Because she would have never done this sober.

    I am not saying that her addiction is an excuse, but I can’t ignore the horrible effects of it, either. Ask anyone who has had a DUI or done something else horrible while under the influence. The problem is when that usually wonderful person is dangerous when under the influence. They must be held accountable for their behavior. As far as I’m concerned, her crime began that night with her first drink.

    In my case, I am deeply saddened that the LGBT and feminist communities have remained almost entirely silent about my experience. The intersectionality of this event SHOULD BE a conversation, and we should have it BECAUSE it makes us uncomfortable. Much easier to pretend it’s not there. Let’s just stay angry at all the men and people with penises! So much EASIER, RIGHT?

    It’s disappointing that some people are unwilling or unable to do the emotional work it requires to process that someone they care about can be capable of something really awful. But from the experienced feminist and LGBT communities, I expected better.

    The transphobic radical feminists and other transphobic people will continue to rage over the state of my wife’s genitals, and I can’t stop them. But I hope more intelligent and thoughtful people will rise to the occasion to steer the conversation to what really matters.

    I want her to be accountable. I want this to never happen again. I want to forgive her. I want this story to be about forgiveness and redemption. I need it to be. I need others to let it be that, too – to be my story, my trauma, my choice, my agency.

    • lin Says:

      I can understand how she would feel that way. It’s sad that her attacker’s lawyer vilified her in that way and people jumped to support her husband, the accused, over her! Unforgivable.

      But I was recently re-reading one of the early stories where a trans advocate was saying, “This is not a trans story.” If the trans had been the victim, I have no doubt he would make it a trans story. I say when it twists crime statistics and possibly puts a man in a jail cell with a woman, it is a trans story.

      The second paragraph by helenboyd: The trans person takes up all the space; they’re the ones people are interested in. As if women don’t already take the back seat enough in a marriage. That’s life with a narcissist.

      I had a friend who worked in domestic violence, and what a draining job it was. She told me how you can’t give in to the urge to rail against the ogre who beat up her client, because chances are she will go back and he’ll accuse you of turning her against him, then he turns her against you. And even if she doesn’t go back, she still looooves him and starts sticking up for him.


    • “B-b-b-but he didn’t mean it! (S)He was just drunk.”

      I’ve heard that before…

      “I’m calling you a “hate group” because your anger regarding the violence against women perpetrated by men has so taken over your brain that your hairtrigger hatred automatically pounces on ANY OPPORTUNITY to denounce trans women as men, and to denounce men for how horrible they are.”

      I get the feeling this woman is following or at least aware of you (Gallus).

      It seems strange that you release a post about it and the comments from us…and she turns around and directly addressed it.

      • GallusMag Says:

        Probably. But I doubt we’re the only man-hating Feminazis that can’t tell the “good rapists” from the bad.
        Interesting she didn’t address all the lovely “transwomen” like Dave “Darlie” Brewster who made horrific posts claiming that she was lying. Maybe that was just too ugly for her to deal with.

      • PF Says:

        My sister was abused. And for years, not only did she take absolutely everything that asshole wanted to dish out, she silenced the entire family. If we wanted to see her at all, we could say nothing. He threatens other women? Say nothing or he turns more violence on her. She has a flinch instinct like nobody’s business? Say nothing or she disappears. She was his hostage and we knew it.

        He kept it up until she miscarried. He kept it up while she mourned, and that finally opened her eyes. She began making arrangements to leave. Never anything he would notice because she was afraid of more violence, but she left. It’s been about a year now, and still nobody dares say his name lest she feel the need to defend him.

        Same pattern here, except she is at least willing to acknowledge drunk abuse as abuse. And you know, just saying, but women do not commit this crime with anything like the same regularity that men do. We just don’t – check out the stats from the doj. They use male on female for the breakdown categories, because everything else is that rare. We are not the ones who made him go out and commit a typically male crime. We didn’t hold a gun to his head, nor even pop a beer for him. He chose to do all of that. He chose to rape her. And as a woman who has had to deal with too many violent males, I will not accept a rapist into women’s spaces. And when you expect me to “respect the pronouns” you want me to say I’m fine with this rapist in my bathroom. I’m not.

    • AntagonisticThinker Says:

      This woman is the victim, so its hard to get mad at her, but its obviously she has serious issues. She calls the people who support her “haters”, and makes excuses for her rapist. WHO IS MALE. Reality is, one doesn’t become a female, just by thinking they are a female. Just like one doesn’t became a horse, by thinking they are a horse. I love men, I am not a hater. But I accept science, and science reality is “male” and “female” are scientific definitions to describe gene patterns that lead to particular physical & reproductiv traits. Nothing more, nothing less. I am sad to hear this is the 2nd abusive relationship she has had, and I sincerely hope she gets some counseling that will enable her to make better choices of men in the future. Or if she wants to be with a woman, to be with an actual woman, not a pretender. Because, honestly, I would not trust someone who would deny the fundamental reality of male and female.

      • lin Says:

        I wonder if some rich old relative died bequeathing her entire fortune to the eldest son of the eldest son or something like that, how quickly they would become male again. Hmmm sounds like a screenplay.


      • I DON’T love men. I am indeed a hater. But it is not hateful nor “transphobic” to state that the vast majority of rapists are people with penises. It is simply true.

        It is a shame that this woman’s pain is being submerged beneath the tidal wave of transness which has swept away everything in its path. What is sadder still, as Gallus says, is her trauma bonded reaction to the whole sorry mess.

      • AntagonisticThinker Says:

        @farishcunning…you make an excellent point. I have *never* been in a dicey situation where I feared being raped by a woman. Never. I can think of several dicey situations where I’ve been in with a man, and feared being raped. And its not just that men are generally muscularly stronger, if I were being held at gunpoint by a woman, my first thought would be that she wants to rob me, I wouldn’t even consider her wanting to rape me as a possibility. But in the same situation with a man, my first thought would be he wants to rape me, only secondarily I might think that he’ll probably rob me as well. Even men, they seldom fear being raped, but when they do, their fear is of other men raping them, not women. Mcallum’s wife (funny how are the articles mention his name, and not hers) can pretend like “anyone” could be a rapist, I guess this makes her feel better, but the reality as you point out, the chances of being raped by a woman are infinitesimally small.

        @lin totally good point, I have no doubt they would quickly change their “gender” to whatever benefited them the most at any given point in time.

    • shediogenes Says:

      “…she kept hurting me….She was someone else then.”
      HE was himself THEN.
      Some people lose their boundaries when they drink, some people drink as an excuse to lose their boundaries.

      • Biscuit Says:

        Exactly. Because alcohol lowers a person’s inhibitions, it sometimes reveals a person’s inner nature.

        Decent people do not become rapists after a few drinks. At worst, they may become annoying and they may act stupid, but they’re not going to become rapists.

        And I don’t accept the alcohol excuse. If alcohol turns you into a violent person, stay away from it.

        Frankly, I think one has to be quite deranged to violate women and then also pretend to be one.

    • Ashland Avenue Says:

      Thanks for the update. I’m sure he was able to afford an excellent lawyer. I feel sorry for the women who have to work with this prick.


  33. […] Kosilek, or Luis “Cynthia China Blast” Morales, and many others, some even evading prison despite their sexual violence against women. And I am sure Laverne Cox and the SRLP will be […]

  34. born free & female Says:

    Gallus – I’m posting this link in this thread because it’s another case of an MtF raping a woman. Wait until you see his photo.

    http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/transgender-man-raped-woman-in-friends-1588201?mobile=false


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