Things you want to do after transition
November 17, 2014
Any hobbies, sports, or activities you’re waiting until after transition to do? Or would like to do once you pass? For me, it would be upgrading all of my equipment for a few sports I do, into female, or girlier things. But I’d also like to try dance.
I want to be able to have sex
i might give being a functional adult a shot or not, idk
This is what I’m looking forward to the most. Feels like everything’s been put on hold for my transition, and I’m just waiting to finally be done so I can be normal. I’ve started a bit, and I’m studying now, but I still only go to half my classes, and I have to take two weeks off now to have an extra surgery. Totally sucks.
I had been avoiding adulthood because I didn’t want to go from boy->man. Now that I’m transitioning I feel like I can finally become the responsible parent my son needs. Not cos his mother isn’t great – she’s awesome – but yeah deadshit parents suck.
I’m gonna go to Disney World!
Actually being able to go out and interact with people without feeling like shit about myself, that would be nice. I pretty much have no idea whatsoever what that’s even like. Also, yeah, cosplay sounds surprisingly fun even though I’m getting a bit old for that unfortunately. Oh well.
I can’t wait to roll around in the grass with my shirt off. Or ride my bike with my shirt off. Or go to the beach and feel the sand with my shirt off. Mostly I just want to take my shirt off.
Note: Please add the following to the end of each of these things- “Without massive anxiety/fear”
- Going swimming.
- Do Yoga with other women.
- Meet new friends.
- Spent a short time being ‘that one cute Barista’ at a nice coffee place.
- Play in a metal band again, but this time as a girl.
- Write a book under my actual chosen name.
- Start living again.
I like the yoga one. When I’m home (Not working..) my mom will ask me if I want to go with her, sometimes.. I do, but I don’t… It sucks.
Looking at a lot of these replies, it seems we’re all excited for the same thing – to begin living. And reading some of the replies, I’ve realized that’s also what I’m excited about. I feel like I’m held back so much in certain areas because I can’t just, do me.
I want to do a fucking ton of sports. I dislike them now because I don’t like feeling connected with this body, despite loving certain aspects of the sports. Besides, I do a lot of water sports. The wetsuit absolutely optimises genital dysphoria, you’ll know what I mean if you’ve ever worn one! I want to continue sailing, I want to continue tae-kwon-do. I want to take up windsurfing and surfing again, and skateboarding. I actually want to make some sort of career out of these- I already can teach sailing, and if I can make it to a high level in each of these, high enough to teach it, I’ll be able to find work pretty much anywhere. I’m just scared that word about my eventual transition will spread and hinder that. The sailing world is a small world, news travels fast! I would love to learn as many instruments as I can manage- starting with a guitar, and including drums, piano, violin, etc. I don’t need to be amazing, I just like to feel the music in that really cool, intimate way. I also want to write and read more, since, hopefully, the cloudiness of mind will dissipate somewhat, and everything won’t be tainted by dysphoria. Also, sex & flirting. I don’t do that now because I feel like a monster. It would be cool to do that.
I’d love to go to the beach or the swimming pool again… in a bikini this time!
Move forward with my life. Put my degree to use. Teach. Stop putting my entire being on hold because I’m not who I should be… (Wow. That got really heavy, really quick…)
getting a boy friend 😀 😀 😀 i would die of happiness when it finally happens.
I’d like to be comfortable enough with myself to try dating. I’m 23 and I’ve never even kissed anyone, so I’m really starting to feel that.
I’m 30 and I’ve never been in a relationship. It really starts to hurt.
I always dreamed of modelling (in whatever scale, a decently shot cosplay blog would be very nice for example), voice acting and singing.. currently, the problem’s rather apparent: I can’t even talk, and I don’t feel anything about that will change until my situation changes and I can at least get out of here and get used to a welcoming and decent surrounding instead of consistent panic mode. Trying to stay positive.. Oh yeah, I also always wanted to learn to play on a violin.. I just love the instrument >:
have sex maybe with guys, definitely with girls, skateboard. DO whatever i still like doing, uhh… smile? ties into this a bit already, but actually feel sexy. for once. i want to care about being attractive and have people want me. and lots of weird sexi thingies. swimming, going to the beach, etc. would be so much better too.
I would like to write a great American novella.
I would like to start up life. I’ve literally been stuck for years in this status quo. Living at my parents, jobs that don’t pay nearly enough due to hours, and wasting (way) to much time being behind the computer. Sorry for the pesimism, it’s what makes me, me. But for your question Find place to live, cooking course, and a floral arrangement course(did garden centre), I love flowers and their smells. :). Oh and I would hope I get more open, so I can actually go out and make friends!
Continue rocking my guitar and continue being the nerd I am. Not gonna change much in other words, just the way I present. At least that’s what I think now but I’m gonna stay open new impulses. Perhaps roller-derby or cosplay
Going to the beach wearing a bikini and not having a bulge while doing so
Go to the beach somewhere warm, take off my shirt, take off my nasty-ass dad sandals, and go swimming. Go swimming in the fucking ocean, even though I’m kind of scared of water and I don’t like the heat. I want to feel the sun on my bare back and water on my chest and be able to breathe properly for the first time in a long fucking time. Also relationships.
Not be 6′ 3″ On a lighter note though I have always wanted to try dance without being that stereotypical “gay guy”.
Learn to play the drums. Maybe I’ll have enough money post-transition to afford a drum kit.
I want to make more friends and hang out with them.
As a feminine FtM, I’m waiting until I pass to wear makeup.
I want to learn to dance, like legit dance classes and stuff. That would be absolutely amazing to me. Probably want to learn stuff like ballroom dancing or ballet or something 🙂
what i’d really, really, REALLY love to do.. is to dance the right (girl) part.. and i can’t wait for it to happen!
Get married probably
ROLLER DERBY! My solo album! Meet a nice boy 😥 Grow an amazing Garden, a paradise of my own. Start a reptile sanctuary. Become Jenny Appleseed, Except with Kratom, Cactus, and Cubensis instead of apples.
I wanna go swimming shirtless, climb a mountain or cliff or two, maybe sing more, and be able to use a more powerful bow. Oh, and finally be able to do tricks involving lifts in dance.
I want to be able to wear clothes I actually like and feel confident in.
I want to design an exoskeleton mech suit and go to Burning Man. I just need time and money. I also want to help encourage more women to work in engineering so it becomes less of a male dominated area of work.
I would love do ballet.
Well obviously I’m hoping that somewhere along the line I feel comfortable enough with myself to even be open to the idea of being intimate with someone, but my situation’s a little different than most. Anyone on here who knows me knows I started out with a bmi over 60, so part of my transition is losing the weight too. At the rate I’m losing it, I’m pretty optimistic I can be down to my body’s ideal BMI in roughly 2 years. So in 2 years, I want my birthday party to be a roller disco. I haven’t been able to ride skates since was a teen, so that’d be nice. I want to go boutique foraging with my girlfriends, and take dancing classes (maybe even a belly dancing one). I want to learn how to surf, and hopefully, I’ll make enough money to start being able to afford the surgeries when my weight’s at that point. Eventually I want to be married. At this point I’m not picky of who, or what gender I preference, but I’m leaning towards a nice man. Someone who’d want to go surfing and camping with me, and who’d unhook my fish for me so I don’t have to get slime fingers from them. Not a granola head, but a sweet person. I’d love to be accepted by my old friends, and I’m pretty sure I’ll still be allowed to group events or something, but I know I’ll no longer be one of the boys, and the girls are so tight-knit that I don’t really see a place for me in their crew. Besides, after years of everyone holding out, they’re all…surprise surprise pregnant which means they’ll all have kids the same age which kinda triggers me because it’s another thing that makes me different from the women I grew up wanting to be close friends with. Fuck them. I always got the impression I was tolerated by them because the boys wanted me around. I’d like to think that they might have just noticed I wasn’t like the rest of the horn-dog pack, and they didn’t know what to do with me, but that’s different than treating someone as a social non-entity. …F&#k. I think I have some more shit to workout with my therapist now, thanks for that.
Walk Down a street and no one even give me a second glance. I would be so happy.
1) Be in a relationship with someone.
2) Scuba diving
3) Move somewhere warmer
4) Hopefully go stealth
My therapist asked me the other day what happens when this is all over…. I said then i can finally be myself 🙂 Learn to dance would be nice, but just recently I realized that I would actually like to get married maybe adopt, prior to transition i didnt care, i felt like I had nothing to offer but latley it has been on my mind a lot.
Looking forward the most to making new friends after transitioning. Second would be stopping working after laser and electro are paid for and studying a new career.
Getting girly tattoos
Transitioning will make me feel a lot better, but it won’t really open any avenues I cannot already pursue if I wish. I suppose shopping for clothes I like in a physical store could be nice for a change. But that’s about it.
Swimming is number one. I miss it so much.
I want to be able to finish things I start 😛 And joining a female soccer team would be fun 🙂
For when everything is done SWIMMING! I’m Australian and I haven’t been to the beach since my breasts started growing, its a travesty. I want to finally wear a bikini. Also, I want to walk around in my underwear, all the damn time. And when my girlfriend gets SRS I want to give her the sex she’s always dreamed of.
I want to get started on my career- being a voice actress!
Swim. Give public readings. Travel. Have vaginal sex. Know that the only reason people are staring at me is because I’m tall and striking. Mostly forget this whole transition phase, but remember the good parts.
Sorry that this is kind of a raunchy one, but… I’ve vowed to send my roommate a selfie after I’ve successfully been able to breastfuck a guy for the first time. She’s very supportive.
Finally have a romantic relationship as I’ve seen it in my head for forever(having a boyfriend and being a female in the relationship). Being held, kissed, made love to, I look forward to all over this. Oh and giving my first blowjob 😛
[sic. From a transgender forum. –GM]