Something that’s been lost (and by lost I mean ignored) in the Great Transgender Bathroom Debate of 2016 is the number of women who “identify as male” but balk at subjecting themselves to the risk of sexual assault and violence involved in using male facilities where they are vulnerable as female-bodied-persons disrobing in proximity to actual men. You know, men, those individuals with penises: the kind single-handedly responsible for perpetrating nearly all crimes of rape, sadism, and bloody mayhem in every human society in recorded history since the beginning of time. Those guys.
Passing as male may be swell when it comes to walking home at night, improving your queer dating pool bonafides and saving money on haircuts but when it comes to pulling your pants down around strange men, not so much.
North Carolina’s HB2 which legally regulates single-sex facilities may drive a stake in the fantasy heart of men who wish to use women’s facilities as validation of their gender feels and to avoid other dudes side-eying them over their wardrobe choices, breast implants and bad wigs, but to some FEMALE transgenders – women who “identify as male”- it’s a bit of saving grace.
Unlike the high profile “transmale” bathroom hoaxers who apparently felt forced to fabricate mensroom hate crimes to save face around their desire to continue using female restrooms, women like male-identified North Carolina resident Charlie Comaro seem quietly relieved by the legal mandate to use facilities based on sex, not gender.
“It’s literally against the law for me to use the men’s room, and it’s also risky. Even though I’m more than a year on testosterone—I’m getting facial hair, my hair has receded a little—I still don’t always pass as male,” she reports to MotherJones.com.
Heterosexual female Sawyer DeVuyst, who “identifes as” a gay man and produces a transgender selfie blog project documenting her body hair growth on testosterone describes the discomfort of changing tampons in the men’s restroom to Mic.com:
“You’re in a men’s room and somebody hears you rustling a paper in the stall because you’re changing a tampon — that outs you,” she relays.
Sawyer has signed on as a model for the BoyShort model of SheThinx menstruation underwear, which function as washable blood diapers for women.
“They say, like, “stars, they’re just like us!” but also, trans people, they’re just like us,” Sawyer helpfully informs fellow bleeders on their website.
For every widely promoted media story featuring hormonal moon-faced women with Amish beards who demand a spot at the table of men, there’s an equal undercurrent of male-identified females like UK food blogger Jack Munroe whose medical transformation away from womanhood is defined by harm reduction from male abuse: “The aim is to be able “to pass for a young man on public transport,” She explains succinctly.
The utter absence of female “transmen” garnering various Man of the Year Awards, Father of the Year Awards, and Sports Illustrated and Vanity Fair covers like their male sisters, and the failure of testosterone-injecting females to sweep any male sporting championship, ever, as transwomen do in female events with regularity, is duly noted. Sex matters, and women can’t identify their way out of –or into- the legacy of male violence and the eugenics resulting from generations of inbred ultraviolent male rapists.
Los Angeles Santee High School eliminated their second floor fifteen-stall female restroom, opening it up to males, after a male-identifying female student “transman” was humiliated by a janitor who momentarily “gendered” her as her “desired gender”. The student, Yasmin “Alonzo” Hernadez is a “transman” who “identifies as” male. According to the LATimes, she began demanding male pronouns and adopted a traditionally male name a year before, and wished to be perceived as male. As a result, a custodial worker accidentally perceived her as her desired gender and pointed out that she was entering the girl’s restroom. The janitor immediately corrected herself and apologized when she realized Alonzo was not actually male, but Alonzo was humiliated at having to explain that although “male” in identity she preferred female facilities due to the risk of harm to herself as a female person from actual males.
“A High School Janitor Wouldn’t Let Him Use The Bathroom. So He Started a Movement” read the headline on Fusion.net.
“When he’s out of school and in public, he uses men’s restrooms. But at school—when he absolutely has to use a facility—he continues to use the girls’ restroom because he says he does not want to make anyone uncomfortable. He said he also was concerned about being harassed,” Fusion reports.
The female restroom was changed to a unisex facility to accomodate males. Male facilities remained unaffected and retained the same number of male restrooms.
“As a Transgender Man, Choosing Which Bathroom to Use Can Be Agony“, writes Jake Damien.
“I do not enjoy using men’s bathrooms.
As a transgender man, I am not supposed to admit this. I am supposed to proclaim that I finally “feel at home,” and that I will fight for my right to access them. And I will! But the truth is, I don’t feel safe in them—nor do I prefer them to women’s rooms.
The thing is, I never felt wrong in women’s bathrooms and locker rooms; I felt wrong in my own skin. Growing up, I remember so many instances of what medical gatekeepers call “gender dysphoria”—of feeling like I was trapped in a mismatched body. After a childhood of being the only little girl playing on all-boys soccer and baseball teams, in middle school, I was ripped away from my social and athletic communities and told I was no longer allowed to play with the guys. I can still feel the sadness and confusion of that loss.”
She goes on to suggest that, like Santee High, women should sacrifice hard won female single-sex facilities and open them to men, so that women like her can continue to use them while identifying as male:
“I use the men’s bathroom now mostly because I am perceived as a threat in the women’s room. But I’ve come to believe that a long-term solution is not to make transgender people choose between two gendered bathrooms, but to make all bathrooms gender neutral.”
She describes the danger she experiences as a woman in male facilities, an experience she hopes all women will opt into by forgoing, like herself, female single-sex facilities:
“Every time I enter a male locker room, I brace for what may be around the corner. Frequently, if men in the locker room see my body as I change or as walk into the showers, they follow me. In a few horrific cases, men have pulled back my shower curtain to “better see” me, or worse, pushed their genitals at me.
In these spaces, I seem to spark a unique and terrifying mix of sexual objectification and male-to-male aggressiveness. The men’s locker room is a place where I have accidentally, and unwillingly, become a Rorschach test of people’s sexuality, open-mindedness, and ideas on masculinity. And it’s not a fun place to be.”
Video from Radical Feminist panel at the NYC Left Forum: “Deconstructing Gender Identity Under Male Supremacy”
June 27, 2016
Interesting video on gender and how it harms women featuring Kathy Scarbourough, Sam Berg, Penny White.
This video was taken at this conference:
Reddit Admins Monitored My Private Messages and Banned Me for Private Laughter at Neckbeards in Fedoras
March 12, 2016
Reddit’s massive censorship and moderation issues reached my door when paid staff administrators informed me I was banned permanently for posting private information about another user. The only problem is that I never did any such thing. My sole history with the site was posting a few article links and making a few comments here and there, nothing notable. I assumed the accusation was yet another incidence of harassment by transgender males related to my gender-critical lesbian feminist politics. Reddit users will affirm that the male moderators of lesbian, feminist and transgender forums have a hair-trigger for banning any content relating to sexism or the oppression of female human beings based on our sex. Such content cock-blocks the redditor transgender fantasies of heterosexual male autogynephiles whose worldview depends on the total erasure of the existence of the female sex. (See numerous “I love my vagina!” titled links to dick-pics posted unmoderated in lesbian forums.)
Having heard of the difficulties reddit has had with controlling site moderation I assumed in good faith that admins had banned me in error and I contacted them and invited them to read my post history and reinstate my account. What happened next entered the realm of the surreal. Reddit admin “Redtaboo” informed me that admins had been monitoring my private messages and that I was being banned on the basis that one of my private messages contained a link to a public post by an individual who was also, according to admin, a reddit member.
What awful fuckery was this? According to reddit administrators, no woman may link in a private, unpublished message with another user any public post by any individual who also has (according to admin) a reddit account. According to reddit admins, any public post by any individuals known by admin to hold reddit accounts can never be mentioned in private messaging. Or something.
Whut? There are countless PUBLIC reddit POSTS discussing offsite PUBLIC POSTS made by individuals who also have reddit accounts. Yet lesbian feminists have our PRIVATE MESSAGES monitored by paid admins and we are banned for PRIVATELY discussing PUBLIC POSTS by individuals who may also have reddit accounts? None of this is mentioned in the TOS, of course. How curious, in that many persons publicly link to my posts, when I maintain(ed) a reddit account, and multiple public accounts impersonating me and attempting to publicly dox me on Reddit remain uncensored and unmoderated by site admin.
This whole absurdity made me very curious, since as I said I had only made a few posts and a handful of private messages on the reddit site. What reddit user’s public posts had I privately discussed in my private messaging that reddit admins were monitoring? Looking back at my history I noticed a few private messages had been deleted. Having sent less than a dozen private messages in my entire reddit history it wasn’t a difficult search. I had sent a PRIVATE message to another user where we laughed at the public neckbeard fedora photos of a man on twitter who stated that transgender people should be outed, doxed, publicly shamed and dis-employed via real life harassment if they support in any way the feminist critique of sex-roles. No reddit account or reddit post was mentioned. But “Redtaboo” seemed awfully concerned that the twitter doxxer linked privately in a private message was also a reddit user. (BTW the full content of my private message regarding this individual was “Neckbeard photos! Hahaha. Enjoy!”)
A few seconds on Google revealed that the twitter neckbeard doxxer was reddit user Amy_of_Dallas, who is, guess what! Completely “out” about himself on reddit including posting his LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/amyjess photos where he lists both his laydee-name Amy Jess Book and his original name, Jason G. Pallack. So even if someone had made a reddit post about the twitter doxxer (which they didn’t) he’s completely out anyway. He’s completely proud of his campaign to dox and harass fellow transgender people and harass them at their jobs.
But no one did make a post about him, nor did I. I simply laughed PRIVATELY about a neckbeard fedora fool in a private message on Reddit, a website where men monitor the PRIVATE speech of women, lesbians and feminists for signs of PRIVATE LAUGHTER at ridiculous men, in order to slander, ban and censor us from public speech.
“As the person who made this policy change happen before I hit peak trans I know first hand that it will be horrible for womyn”, says Sarah Fraas, the student leader of the Smith College campaign which forced the historic women-only college to admit males who “identify as” female.
Fraas created the “Trans Women Belong Here” group and ran their “Smith Q&A” website and twitter account. She organized the public protests, and hand-lettered the signs for the attendees herself. “Look at me on the far left before I woke up/shaved my head. So surreal to see my handwriting on all of these stupid signs” she says in hindsight in a recent post on her new blog.
The “Transwomen at Smith Q&A” Facebook page, modeled after Sarah Fraas’s website but apparently managed by another student who still supports men at the school, posted an advisory on December 17:
“Dear Q & A supporters
It has come to our attention within the past few hours that both our tumblr (formerly smith-q-and-a.tumblr.com) and twitter (@transwomenatsc) have been edited by an outside source to reflect trans exclusionary and transmisogynist views that this organization does not hold, and actively opposes.
We have confirmed that these pages have been accessed by someone who used to be involved in our organization. This person has changed the passwords and these outlets are no longer affiliated with Q&A.
You can access a preserved copy of our tumblr here: https://web.archive.org/…/…/http://smith-q-and-a.tumblr.com/ If anyone with web expertise knows something about transferring this data to a freestanding, new tumblr, please get in touch (though it is finals- we will do our best to respond). We do not recommend accessing these former accounts.”
Sarah Fraas’s original campaign was sparked by an autogynephile Connecticut male high school student named Calliope Wong who demanded the right to force women to play along with his sexual fantasy that he is female. Wong has since declined admission to Smith and now runs a loony blog where he repetitively posts demands for an honorary degree from the women’s college for hurting his feelings juxtaposed with pleas for his various GoFundMe campaigns:
“Now, I get that I’m 20 and that most Honorary Degrees are conferred upon people who’ve done decades of work in their respective fields. But trans women facing these compounded forms of violence, in general we don’t have a record of living very long or with very high standards of living. There are few remaining trans elders beyond the age of 40, as it is. We must account for why.
This is why I think we should make this plan happen.
Please share this plan with Smith College, Mount Holyoke College, Mills College, Wellesley College, Barnard College, Bryn Mawr College, and other women’s college alum and current students.
Let’s discuss strategy.”
Not only did Sarah Fraas Spend three (very expensive!) years at Smith spearheading Wong’s womanhood project- she went that extra distance and targeted Lesbian Feminists and gender critical women who published opinions which contradicted his. She obsessively stalked women who disagreed online and tracked down their personal information, including their employers, whom she then contacted, over and over, sending them falsified claims of wrongdoing in ghastly letters, like a crazy person, and she used the upper class cache of the Smith College reputation to do so. For three years.
Now, she says “radical feminism saved my life”. Male individuals are no longer female, and that “ I may also write about going down the male-approval trans BS “transwomen deserve to be in women’s spaces” rabbithole thing at some point…”
O-kay. That totally fucked up -arguably criminal- “thing” she did for three years might someday be redressed.
No urgency there. No apparent obligation to undo what she has done. No dashing off apologetic letters to women’s employers. No consciousness of harm done by her real-life stalking of regular working women she disagreed with. No apology to lesbians. No campaign- or even a note- sent to the Smith College board that she lobbied passionately and urgently for years on Mr. Wong’s behalf. She still cites her trans social justice award nomination on her LinkedIn. But hey. She might write about that whole male-approval “rabbithole thing” that she did. At some point. Maybe.
January 14, 2016
January 6, 2016
Woman: deeply felt personal identification lacking any specific definable characteristics
Lesbian: homosexual female, or, heterosexual male femulator, or, femulating male who partners with other femulating males in homosexual male relationships.
Female: Egg producing member of sexually dimorphic species, or, a feeling some men have which lacks any specific characteristics.
Heterosexual: opposite-sex relations, or, same-sex relations in which one partner has a deeply felt psychological belief that they produce gametes of the other sex.
Gender: comprised of three parts-
Gender Identity: Mental Reproductive Biology, Brain Sex, Human psychological perception of reproductive gamete production independent of actual biology. Coexists with, but overrides perception of actual reproductive biology. When incongruent to sexual organs, compels urgent need to change social recognition of reproductive capacity for unknown reasons, unrelated to social sex roles, this imperative manifests with Extreme body modifications, Violence towards others, Self-harm.
Gender Roles: A sex-based system of social order designed to maintain female (offspring bearing) subordination to male (non-gestating) control via ritualized behaviors of submission for females (femininity) versus domination behaviors for males (masculinity). Or, a menu of empowering choices accessible through body modifications, threats of violence, and threats of self harm.
Gender Expression: Personality, recast through the lens of sex stereotypes as male or female traits.
Transfeminism: Feminism that “crosses over” into its opposite; Anti-feminism.
Transfemininity: Aggressive masculinity.