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A historic first in the annals of gender: a preliminary survey of over two hundred female detransitioners has been completed. Read the results here:

http://guideonragingstars.tumblr.com/post/149877706175/female-detransition-and-reidentification-survey

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Georgia O'Keeffe - 'Ladder to the Moon'

Georgia O’Keeffe – ‘Ladder to the Moon’

The early data that has come out about regret shows that there is little to none,” rogue physician and “transgender youth” activist Dr. Johanna Olson has claimed. One of Dr. Olson’s former teen patients writes to GenderTrender about her own experiences and developing thoughts as she matures:

I wont go into full detail but lets just say in pure honesty that i wasnt raised in your typically family situation i once never knew what gay or trans or anything meant. Till i had a bi sexual roommate.

I felt different sure as a girl wasnt your typical girly girl. But id never imagined id end up to be trans one day influences definitly have a bit of an effect on teenagers. I am still currently in the process of really going back into the past and rediscovering the truth of what happened to me i do belive at one point i began to belive in many lies about myself that became who i am. Long story short as a teenager and even young adult i thought i knew it all like every young dumb teenager there wasnt anything anyone could tell me unless i agreed with what it was they were saying. I transitioned as in hormone therapy at age 18. Stayed on and off for quite some time. As i got older things about life became more clearer to me. I think around age 22-23 it was like i was a whole new person mentally as if we went back to the basics of pysch 101

no needed medical degree youll learn that human brains are not fully developed until about the age of 22-23. Hince why i really felt as if life was completly different. I started questioning many things why didnt i listen to my dad he was probably right blah blah blah. I actually went back and forth with my gender identity for a couple years. But not properly taking the time to really discover the truths about myself i still very well felt trans since it was such an ingrained lie and honestly i would also have to say that having gone through years of hormones name change etc i figured i was stuck with that decision and i couldnt go back.

Just recently after months of mental touture battling different thoughts about well i want to try being a girl again but what will my friends say the people i care about will they lash out on me. I had experinced losing friendships last time i tried detransitioning. But it led me to a very dark place where it was either have some confidence and try finding piece and just be real for once with my current friends and if they dont like it than i guess they never cared about me to begin with. Or who knows honestly it felt like life and death for me. I still currently live as luke most of my life and surroundings. But i live by my birth name and gender in other areas of my life.

I have had this topic on my mind so much recently because are we really treating these children right

are they even capable of making such decisions as a teenager or even young adult. All they know is whats in the media the trends going around all the major influence on these topics. But what will happen to some of them when there outside of there little box and they want to experince the world find a partner. Interact with coworkers or the public. I feel like gender identity is just part of life but we put way to much focus on that part of ourselves theres way more to life whether were a girl or boy. Some will realize when there older oh wow no one ever told me id face these kinds of issues in the world or this would be so uncomfortable or hard to do. I do belive some people are legitimatly trans sure but some its just become a trend or something cool that everyone seems to be doing. Were focused on all the kids who are trans and getting them care and not to thoughful about the 1-2 that arnt but are given the care. And honestly i think now with it being way to accessible with so much media like its something cool there will be higher rates of kids who will grow up and realize they were wrong. We wont know now when there teenagers because just remember teenagers are full of raging emotional hormones thinking they know everything about life. What happens when there mommies and daddies tell them its time to fly on your own. I dont know just things i think about.

[sic] Left as a comment on >this< post. Georgia O'Keeffe - 'Ladder to the Moon'

The In-betweeners?

August 10, 2015

the in-betweeners

Initially I didn’t even bother clicking to read the unfortunately titled piece “The In-betweeners” by Daisy Dumas in the Sydney Morning Herald because I assumed it was yet another tedious lifestyle post on the young adult “genderqueer” social trend.

It’s actually a pretty in-depth profile of a handful of the thousands of transgender folks who eventually tire of the whole trans schtick after a number of years living in their target sex-role and decide to medically and socially detransition to varying degrees. This is a fairly unusual article because the transgender community responds to detransitioners who speak publicly about their experience with terrific hostility, threats, and harassment.

In the case of sportwriter Mike Penner, who transitioned to his “Christine” persona and then changed back, the withdrawal of support was so severe that he committed suicide. Other public detransitioners have been targeted with years of public derision and obsessive stalking by transgender activists. Mark Angelo Cummings, an FTM activist who stated this year that she no longer believes herself to be “male-brained”, was deluged with violent death threats, including a Vancouver “transwoman” who posted their intention to drag Cummings on a chain behind his truck until dead. Cummings lost the sponsors of her long-running Transition Radio program and was also removed from Lynn Conway’s “Transgender Success Stories” website. Heath Atom Russell, a woman who was interviewed about her detransition for a local cable-access TV show, had her tires slashed and car vandalized, and was stalked so severely by one local “transwoman” that she was forced to get a restraining order. I could list dozens of other examples, but you get the point.

Reversing the transgender narrative is not only a common occurrence, but one that is utterly taboo among the transgender politic, and also, shockingly, among those who have appointed themselves as the “gatekeepers” of transgender care.

When author Joel Nowak of REtransition.org contacted the World Professional Association of Transgender Health (WPATH) for help, he was told that the group, which bills itself as the “world authority on transgender health”, did not have a single resource or drop of information to offer those who wish to halt or reverse the medical or surgical process of transition. Nothing. Nada. Not only did the “world authority” have nothing whatsoever to offer in terms of medical and surgical guidelines or standards of care, but they also had no knowledge of anyone who did. They also had nothing on psychological adjustment or social support.

This utter failure of care is unimaginable in any other field of health. Can you imagine a “world authority” of endocrinology responding, “We have no information on that” to a patient who asks “What do I need to know about stopping my diabetes medication now that my blood sugar is better controlled after weight loss?” Can you imagine if the world authority in diabetic health care said : “We have no information on that medical process and we don’t know anyone who does. We have no idea, and we also have no idea where to direct you for information or care.” Such glaring and irresponsible failure to provide care from a self-described health authority in any other field would be described as malpractice, neglect, or even deliberate disregard. In the world of “Transgender Medicine” however, it is business as usual, with an emphasis on “business”. Read the rest of this entry »

Joel’s Blog: http://retransition.org/

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If you are a detransitioned/ing woman OR if you are a woman without a history of transition but you are reconciling with femaleness, there is a new support network forming. This forum is a private, female-only, safe space where women can come together to make sense of things. If you experience gender and/or sex dysphoria, if you have been dis-identified with being a female, if you have transitioned or have wanted to or if you are currently transitioning and re-thinking things, this is a space for you.

Right now, we’re just starting off and slowly gathering new members. There is a vetting process, so if you are interested in joining, you can email 23XX at twentythreexx@gmail.com and we can go from there.

image from USA Today added by me- GM

image from USA Today added by me- GM

Guest Post from Gregory:

I have tragically come to realize my story is fairly typical of most MtF persons. I was molested by my “trusting” grandfather at age 3, father was killed at age 5 and while my mother remarried; you could essentially say I grew up without a “father figure” or role model.
By 10 or 13 years old; the gender confusion had begun. Only I didn’t know its origins. I was frequenting the gay neighborhoods by 16; assuming this emptiness and sexual craving was a signal of who I was. But, it wasn’t gratifying; and always left me disgusted.
By 25, I was cross dressing in earnest. Buy, purge, buy, purge this repetitive cycle of self hatred continued unabated. For the next 15 years I was married and divorced twice. The root of the failures I believe some bent up anger and feeling of inadequacy stemming from a childhood I had no control over.

By my late thirties, this feeling of a “feminine core” continued. It led me to purchase online and experiment with Estrogen and an Anti-Androgen. My body slowly started to feminize. I dieted and exercised feverishly and got my body down to an acceptable female weight. I felt great; this must be who I am?

I remarried again in my early forties to a wonderful woman. Yet, the programming in my mind was so scrambled by then that it was difficult to differentiate between reality and fantasy. By the time I started seeing a gender therapist and a surgeon they were as convinced as I was that I was female.

Since I was already on estrogen, the endocrinologist felt morally/ethically obligated to continue that same protocol and at least monitor it and prescribe it legally. I received my first letter for surgery after a year and the second after two years. My childhood issues were jotted down by the therapists almost as if a side note. (A very common failure in approving surgery.) At no time did I tell my family, consider my career or even consider talking to the love of my life of my plans. This “sickness” and it is a sickness, consumes and takes over your life! You will lie to everyone around you as you continue to lie to yourself to get it done.

The first six months post-op SRS were wonderful. By the eight month, things were changing. Now my interest was finding out how to end my life. That is called REGRET. How long it takes you to come to this point is subjective; probably once the excitement wears off. You realize this was completely wrong. You have destroyed everything in your path to get it done and no-one in the medical community will stop you. How can they? You lied to yourself for so long. Fooling them was the easy part. Or did they even care? “When would you like your next appointment?”

The recently published WPATH Version VII has simply allowed the medical community to open the “floodgates” for this very tragedy to unfold. To get on cross gender hormones and then have surgery has become almost as simple as going to the convenience store for a pack of gum. If the client wants it, give it to them. “Real Life Test”? Maybe, maybe not, depending on your circumstances, occupation, etc. It is a billion dollar industry that thrives on your illness.

Get help. Don’t mutilate your body. The psychiatrist, psychologists, and surgeons will enjoy a wonderful life. You, however, could end up with a tortured life, ending up penniless, possibly unemployed, without family or friends and maybe even homeless. And that’s if you haven’t tried or committed suicide by then! All so you can become the girl you “think” you are inside and wanted to be! People, God or whatever you believe in made you in the correct gender. It is encoded in your very DNA. If you think differently, get real help; but, DON”T CHANGE IT.

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This essay was previously published on REtransition.Org.

Thank you Gregory.

The List

October 24, 2013

The questionnaire

The following is a list written by a detransitioning woman outlining the missing factors in the care they were provided by medical practitioners, advocates, and the trans-supportive community at large.

Much lip service is paid in transgender political lobbying around the difficulties in accessing “care” for transgender people. Yet this “care” is profoundly, singularly  directed towards modalities that proscribe misogynist, heteronormative, and indeed transphobic(!) adherence to sex-based gender roles and the pathologization and medicalization of sex-role nonconformity.

Increasingly, this narrow focus of “care” is being directed towards children as young as 18 months old who are being diagnosed as medically disabled and “gender defective” and are celebrated as such for their “bravery” in the face of developmental sex-role deformity by the mainstream LGBT community as if they were contestants in a queer “special gender olympics” version of Toddlers and Tiaras.

Jazz and Coy: Brave! Gender-disabled version of Toddlers and Tiaras

Jazz and Coy: Brave! Gender-disabled version of Toddlers and Tiaras

What of the individuals like Nathan Verhelst for whom such treatments abysmally fail to diagnose or cure? What treatments are available for gender dysphoric individuals for whom cross-hormone and cosmetic surgical options are medically contraindicated? What “care” is available for those many individuals suffering after “transition”?

When Joel Nowak of Retransition.Org contacted WPATH (the premier medical lobbying group for transgender psychiatric and medical care) regarding resources and information for those who need to discontinue cross-sex hormones for various reasons they were told that WPATH had “no idea”. NO IDEA. “That is a very good question” he was advised. This organization has presented itself as the worldwide cutting-edge authority in medical and therapeutic treatment for transgender individuals for decades, and is recognized as such by legal and medical and governmental agencies globally. Yet they had “no idea” how to advise transgender medical consumers on how to safely desist cross-sex hormone therapy, and “no idea” where to refer such transgender persons.

While continually citing the suicidality, morbidity and psychiatric and medical emergency of gender dysphoria, the carers and advocates for transgender persons- including those of the highest professional, therapeutic, academic, political and activist standing- have decided that care should be confined to those who can (and want to) medically and psychologically tolerate gender normative “treatment” and all other transgenders who suffer from sex or gender dysphoria can literally be damned.

Transgenders who medically detransition, or whose dysphoria is uncured after “treatment” – and the percentage is large- are not only completely rejected from care but are shunned, and even attacked by those claiming to promote care for sex and gender dysphoric (transgender) persons. Supportive medical and therapeutic care for these particular transgenders is considered non-imperative as their distress is deemed inconsequential and their experiences and outcomes disposable.

Below is the list provided by a detransitioning woman (now negotiating medical and social de-transition without care or support, because none exists) listing the elements that she identifies as missing in her pre-transition care.

Sadly, this woman has been subjected to a barrage of harassment and intimidation by individuals (also identifying themselves as transgender) who want to silence any sex or gender dysphoric individuals who share information on gaps in existing care for transgender people.

Anyone who is genuinely concerned about providing care for transgender individuals – perhaps especially families struggling with “transgender children”- would do well to take note of the items on this list.

From her post:

“As someone who views transsexualism as a medical condition, I believe everyone should exhaust other alternatives and transition only as a last resort. That is what I did. The thing is, I didn’t have the resources to utilize that I could envision in a better world. Transition was the best option at the time for me, but I can think of a lot of things that would have allowed me to make a better decision. Some of these things are:

–  Knowledge of the existence of detransition

– Realistic, accurate, and honest information about detransition

–  Visibility of detransitioned folks sharing their story

– Information on alternative options for dealing with dysphoria such as meditation and exercises to re-align my self of self with my body

– Knowledge of radical feminism

– Knowledge of how trauma can influence one’s sense of self

–  Trained, knowledgeable support for my trauma

– Someone to guide me into addressing my trauma, instead of letting me go through therapy thinking it really didn’t affect me in any significant way

– Better role models to look up to who exemplify living confidently as a gender non-conforming woman

– More accurate information on the effects of testosterone

– Honest discussion on the mental effects of testosterone

– Parental support in being gay

– Parental acceptance of my being gender non-conforming

–  Better support by non-parental figures in being gay and gender non-conforming

– Knowledge of how deeply misogyny can affect females

–  Acknowledgement and information about internalized misogyny within the FTM spectrum

“Last resort” is a misleading phrase here. I think virtually all trans folks are in a compromised position where better resources could be available, but are not. Detransition has been entirely taboo to talk about anywhere. It has been dismissed by trans folks and framed as cautionary bullshit coming from transphobic people. That one aspect alone puts anyone considering transition at a significant disadvantage if they are ignorant of the possibility of detransition.

Am I against transition altogether? Until these sorts of support and resources are available to the majority trans people, that question does not apply. We do not live in a world where these things are prerequisite to transition, so how could anyone know if transition would still be necessary if better support and resources were available? Sexual trauma is completely ignored as an influence of transsexuality by most therapists in an effort to be “PC”, and that is appalling.”

Read the rest of her post and more of her thoughts here: http://twentythreetimes.tumblr.com/

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