I need advice and solutions on sleeping arrangements with cis and trans women (self.asktransgender)
submitted 11 hours ago by oogiewoogie
I have a sensitive issue that I need some advice on. I belong to a growing LGBTQ club in my city that goes on out of town trips. I plan the rooms and accommodation for the ladies which involve shared beds, in rooms of 2 or 4.
I know many of the cis lesbians that go on these trips, and while they are supportive of trans rights, many of them are nervous being alone in a room as them, let alone sharing a bed. I am disappointed that transphobia exists even in the LGBT community but it does exist. Yes, I know our members need to be educated, but as you know, that will take time and not happen overnight. So please do not berate me on running a transphobic club.
We had a trans girl join us for the last few trips. When she first posted on our message board that she was trans and looking to share rooms, I got several e-mails from the cis women insisting that they were not comfortable being roomed with any trans women. To avoid any conflict, I have always shared a bed with her and have not had any issues.
However this year we have had another trans girl want to join us. I want to be as inclusive and non-discriminatory as possible, as that is the motto of our club. But my options were:
May 5, 2014
August 13, 2012
December 7, 2011
Female impersonators ‘splain their “identities” as Butch Lesbians.
June 14, 2011
You’re not even gonna BELIEVE this one. About four years ago while looking for Lesbian sites on the internet I was confused by a site called LezGetReal. By all appearances it seemed to be one of the most active Lesbian blogs on the internet. But something seemed off about it. Like the fact that contributors all had big giant hair. And tons of makeup. And the articles were more often about M2T transgenders than Lesbians. And that it seemed strangely off key, non reflective of any Lesbian community I had every been a part of. And the fact that none of my friends ever posted on it. I was quickly informed that LezGetReal was a proxy site- a Lesbian proxy site, or more accurately, a Transbian site where transgendered males pretended to be Lesbians. A site for “Trykes”. But not for out proud Transbians, but for ones that thought they were “on the down low”: Stealth. I haven’t gone back to it in years although it pops up with annoying frequency on internet searches of Lesbian issues.
WELL WELL WELL. Come to find out, courtesy of The Washington Post: The editor of LezGetReal, Paula Brooks “is actually Bill Graber, 58, a retired Ohio military man and construction worker who said he had adopted his wife’s identity online. Graber said she was unaware he had been using her name on his site.
Brooks’s identity came under suspicion after news broke that a woman called Amina Arraf on the blog “A Gay Girl in Damascus” might not really be a Syrian lesbian.
Over the weekend, as journalists, bloggers and fans of Amina hunted for clues to the identity behind the blog, Brooks came under review as a possible suspect. Liz Henry, a Web producer at BlogHer.com, questioned Brooks’s involvement with Amina, as Amina had started to write about the Syrian uprising on Lez Get Real before starting her own blog.
MacMaster came forward Sunday to admit that he was behind the persona of Amina, but questions still remained about Brooks.
Brooks had told reporters at The Washington Post that she could only speak on the phone through her father because she was deaf. She provided a photograph of her license as proof of her identity, which showed a woman named Paula Brooks.
On Monday, we continued to question her identity. We spoke to the man who identified himself as her father, who finally admitted after numerous telephone conversations: “I am Paula Brooks.” That man turned out to be Bill Graber.
Graber said he started the site to write about gay issues after seeing the mistreatment of close friends who were a lesbian couple. He said the site was “done with the best of intentions.” As a former Air Force pilot, he also said he used the site to argue in favor of the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell repeal.
“I didn’t start this with my name because… I thought people wouldn’t take it seriously, me being a straight man,” he said.
He felt secure that no one would discover his true identity until the story of Amina started to unravel. He said his connection to Amina was purely coincidental and started when Amina commented on a post on the Lez Get Real site in February. It “was a major sock-puppet hoax crash into a major sock-puppet hoax.”
In the guise of Paula Brooks, Graber corresponded online with Tom MacMaster, thinking he was writing to Amina Arraf. Amina often flirted with Brooks, neither of the men realizing the other was pretending to be a lesbian.”
Holy shit. Men will go to ANY LENGTHS to play Lesbian, to infiltrate the Lesbian community, to colonize, co-opt, pollute, dilute, ruin, and destroy the Lesbian community. And always the same excuse “I just wanted to have access to a community which excluded me as a heterosexual man”. “I wanted to force my way into a community of women”. “I wanted to feel like one of them”.
Yeah, Lez DO “GET REAL” fellas. I wonder what percentage of online Lesbians are actually female. And IRL also. All the creepos and lurkers so famous for frequenting dyke bars are putting on their “women suits” to bully their way into Lesbian space where they are not wanted. Or jerking off at home playing with their sock puppets.